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  Nine – 2009 – costumes are so-so, but that excruciatingly fun naughty feeling between adulterous lovers is palpable. The dance fantasy scene with Penelope Cruise describes it best with some nice tips on sexy movements for the bedroom.

  Burlesque – 2010 - about a burlesque dance house how to tease and create presence and fantasy and some cool ideas on modern lingerie styling, sexy moves, and movie style street savvy.

  Beverly Hills Madam – 1986 – with Lauren Hutton – madam with small circle of very young VIP Escorts – how it is a business, how to fake a college education and privileged upbringing, how to mess up a good thing by too much self-pity, and how to retire from the industry gracefully.

  Personal Services – 1987 – Cult film loosely based on Cynthia Payne, British madam that rose from being a brothel maid to running her own establishment catering to older men’s particular needs. – A lighthearted look at fetishes and role-play in the bedroom and great tips.

  Dagmar’s Hot Pants – 1971 - Cult film about Swedish escorts – Quirky with great clothes and how to act with a client or date to let them relax, plus pitfalls. Anything about Heidi Fleiss – Mid 1990’s – real life madam for VIP Escorts in Los Angeles – A cautionary true story on how to be indiscreet and get busted in public and what’s it like if you do.

  Karma Sutra - 1996 – About an ancient Indian concubine to a raga prince and how their concubines are taught from a young age and had no choice, plus principal esthetics and discipline tips most women can use.

  Dangerous Beauty – 1998 – Venetian courtesan, Veronica Franco saves her city, true story and an inspiring quirky piece of our industry’s long and illustrious history.

  My Fair Lady – 1964 – How a street girl can be transformed into a princess with astute training and practice, practice, practice. The movie looks like fantasy, but it has been done in real life by thousands of VIP escorts, courtesans and sugar babies, so I included it as an inspiration piece.

  Pretty Woman – 1990 – street hooker meets billionaire – fiction and miniscule odds of it happening in real life, but the movie shows you things to learn, such as table manners and polishing yourself without loosing your personality, and holding your ground.

  McCabe & Mrs. Miller – 1971 – Cult film about a gambler and a working girl in the Old West. Realistic look yet slightly romanticized look at how it was back then. A VIP client took me to an alternative cinema to see it twenty years ago in London, UK.

  Yo Puta (Whore) (The Life) – 2004 - This movie is released under several different names - probably due to censors, as there are clips of real sex worker in this film alongside clips internationally acclaimed film and television actresses and a reality TV star. Fiction mixed with real interviews - About a sociology grad student interviewing sex workers for a book. – Interesting cult like cinematography and the interviews are with real life sex workers and madams from several different countries and give genuine and heartfelt insight and individual yet connected perspectives.

  Painted Angels - 1998 – About women working together in the sex industry in a brutal and unforgiving Old Wild West. A harsh and unromantic view of women and the industry back then including abortions, raising children, and other pitfalls and how they relied on each other and were there for each other without any men to protect them.

  The Happy Hooker – 1975 – Cult classic and for decades the inspiration for standard high-end brothels including décor, up to present day for some. Exception that in real life the client pays before the party begins. – A look at how and why to enjoy your work and stay positive and alert and ready to move if there is trouble, and how to fake orgasm sounds to help the client finish faster.

  Working Girls – 1986 – Very realistic look at a day inside a small middle class brothel. - Tips on used condom disposal (with a close-up, eeew. but educational!), taking phone bookings, handling clients, role-play, and some of the ways some clients like to play with your head, what happens to your head when you see too many clients, as well as keeping track of how much you earn.

  Love Ranch – 2009 – Feature film Inspired by the story of Joe and Sally Conforte, who introduced legalized prostitution to Nevada with the fist legal brothel the United States. Interesting piece of history of our industry.

  Satisfaction – Television Series – 2007 to 2009 Beautiful women working in a legal brothel in Melbourne, Australia. I worked in a similar place in Melbourne and on a practical level this show is very realistic with how clients are catered to, how beautiful the women really are inside and out, and hang-ups and work situations of modern middle class to VIP sex workers. Great tips in a lot of different areas, including how to fake taking drugs and how to entertain in the bedroom in a number of different styles, including fetishes and what to do if a client OD’s.

  Storyville: The Naked Dance – Television Documentary – 2000 About America's legendary legal red-light district in New Orleans from 1898 until the U.S. Navy closed it in 1917. It was an area filled clubs that featured the new American music called jazz. Alongside Victorian morality, over 2,000 sex workers plied their trade along the 16 square blocks of glittering window girls’ and brothel lights and rat-infested and drunkard infested alleys. Legendary Sin Cities – Television Documentary Series – 2005 - Between the 1920’s and 1930’s Paris, Berlin and Shanghai, China, thrived as centers of art, literature, intellectualism, debauchery and sin. Three one-hour documentaries examine the notorious cities of the era with archival film, feature-film excerpts and music from the period.

  Sex And The Cinema – Television Documentary – 2009 -About how sex has been depicted and its social and political influences in film throughout its history. Interesting look at how societies attitudes towards sex changes over generations as reflected in movies.

  Homework 1. Watch the movies.

  2. Make a list with notes of the tips and scenes you find useful or inspirational or of interest.

  3. Cross reference tips with your own web research to make sure they are universally used and get results.

  4. Research and watch more movies about selftransformation and manners and the sex industry and women who seek wealthy men to add to your list and notes and crossreferences.

  ❦30 Who Will You Marry?

  Women beware of waiting till 40 to marry. Online dating statistics in 2010 reported that Men in their 40’s and 50’s and 60’s looking for somebody around their age for a serious relationship prefer women who’ve already been married. I have to agree with them in most cases. There is something about being married and seriously and legal cohabitating with another person in finances and all decisions that is not experienced in any other kind of relationship, including living together. Most anybody whose been married for more than three years will agree, it’s a head change. Men find that women who are over a certain age and no marriages under their garter are too picky to live with and they are right. Relationships are give and take and tolerance, you tolerate him forgetting to put the toilet seat down or picking his nose in the bathroom or balding head and he’ll tolerate you leaving your hairbrush full of hair on the dining room table or snorting when you laugh or the hairy mole on your shoulder. Nobody is perfect, least of all you and the person writing this or her husband. Real marriage is work and selfeducation in self-control, cooperation, collaboration, communication, and cohabitation and you never stop working on it. Guys expect that in a prospective wife, though they don’t always practice it themselves and they don’t always have the self-confidence to be truthful. Marriage and full time relationships are valid exit strategies for the sex industry or dating goals, but if he’s making less money than you he will naturally be insecure about it, even if he doesn’t show it. It’s the way men are brought up and you can’t fix it. If you are used to a life of luxury and going out dancing and restaurants and the ballet and he can’t provide it for you, you will resent him without you realizing it. Your number one reason for arguments and resenting each other will be money. Don’t even bother dating a poor man, because he
will spend all he has now on fancy dates to impress you, then when he’s got you, his money will be gone and you will be expected to pay for everything or else date nights will be staying at home watching Internet videos. Men are very sensitive insecure proud creatures; when they are poor they know it and they hate it and take their frustrations out on the people nearest to them, namely their girlfriends, wives, and children. People can’t be poor and totally happy living in today’s world, there are too many things you have to have a lot of money for. There is not a single couple of any race, culture, or age who are poor and don’t fight about money. Definitely don’t have children with a poor man. Love doesn’t pay for shoes, medical, dental, schoolbooks, computers, clothes, or a roof over your heads. And if he’s poor he’s probably not educated enough nor has enough free time to give decent home schooling. Don’t send your kids to free schools if you want them to have a future above the poverty line. If children from poor families don’t get really good educations they have much higher chances of staying poor and falling into gangs, drugs, crime, health problems, and teen pregnancy. The USA education system sucks, including the universities. If you don’t have money for good private schooling, preferably in Europe or Australia or New Zealand, don’t even think about having children. Sell your eggs instead, because you will need the money in the future to save your marriage or save yourself from being homeless. I feel sympathy for women who are brainwashed into thinking they have to have lots of children. Having babies wreaks havoc on your body, your healthy and stress levels, as well as your long-term financial security. You have to take care of yourself in old age and start early, because today’s kids don’t take care of their parents, they put their parents in old people’s homes and their parents (you) have to pay for it. The body clock is simple hormones and family pressure from hopeful grandparents and spinster aunts. Don’t listen to them because it will force you into having babies and being tied to drudgery for life, that you don’t want in the long run. Parents say they don’t regret it when the kids are little, but when the kids are teens and getting into drugs and crime and trouble the parents think differently. Children from teen parents or parents in their early twenties have more health and learning problems and are more likely to stay poor and fall into trouble. Women who have babies without money to support their babies are obviously mentally ill; good mothers don’t do that. Good mothers make sure there are enough money and good surroundings for their kids before they conceive. Farm animals, such as horses, and many animals in the wild don’t conceive unless there is enough food and good habitat for their babies to grow up in. In the animal world having babies is a privilege not a right, but in the human world we have babies all over the place for fashion and ego and family pressure, without any consideration for those babies' futures as adults. Women like the Octamom and teen moms are mentally ill equipped to have children, they don’t know what they are doing and should not be allowed to have children, for the children’s sake. It is cruel to a child to bring them up in poverty, just as it's cruel to have babies with disabilities. The kids don’t know the difference until somebody tells them at school. Then when they realize they are poor and need more they end up frustrated and resentful, in therapy on medication, or substance abuse or doing something stupid. The Octamom had to sell her dignity and privacy for the rest of her life to pay for her kids. Even if he is a good man and does his best, a poor man will have no time for you in the long run, because he has to work three times harder and longer to pay the bills, often having to travel to work, and if you really love him it is so much worse missing him. His credit rating will be low so you have to pay more for loan repayments. His health will suffer from money stress so you have to pay more in medical bills and medications in the long-term. Your sex life will dwindle to near nothing because you are both stressed and tired from working all the time to pay bills, and never be able to catch up and rest. Money woes will always be hanging over your heads. If you live in the bush in a hut and eat roots and leaves, and don’t need Internet, a doctor, a job, decent clothes, a car, or phone for your whole life ignore what I’m saying, it doesn’t affect you. But if you live anywhere near civilization or you need a doctor you need money, and lots of it. If you don’t have money you either have to earn it or marry it. Unfortunate but true, even when you are in love money is a hard fact of life.

  Homework 1. Write a list of everything you want in a longterm relationship and keep it for future reference and edit or rewrite it as your needs and desires change.

  2. Make a list of all of your previous and current relationships and their pros and cons and see how they match up to your list of what you want in a relationship.

  ❦31 How Do You Save Money?

  Part of reaching financial goals is saving money in all areas of your life. It is ok to spend time saving money, because that means less clients you have to see. The key to saving money is getting back to basics and being eco friendly. 21.2 century educated women aware of the environment, but not many know how to re-work their lifestyles and schedules into being eco friendly and save money. Here are some examples and techniques of how much money and time you can save with a few items that many women use at least once a month. Prices circa 2011, but Do It Yourself (DIY) savings ratio is similar in any inflation or currency rate.

  Dinner party for 6

  Average restaurant $180 + Tip = $200 Book, dress, wait and travel = 3 hours DIY = $ 75 including wine

  Time to shop and cook = 2 to 3 hours Save = $ 125 and 1 hour

  Repair pants or skirt hem by hand Professional seamstress = $ 45

  Book, dress, and travel = 1 hour

  DIY = $ 6.60 for thread and sewing needles Time to sew = 15 minutes to ½ hour Save = $ 38.40 and ½ hour to 45 minutes

  De allergy apartment or small house Deep clean $ 200 + Allergy $300 = $500 DIY = $ 20 for de-allergy liquid.

  DIY = $ 35 for steam cleaning machine Save = $445

  Cosmetic Facial

  At a spa with natural products = $110 Book, dress, travel = 2 hours

  DIY = $ 2 with cosmetic clay and raw egg Mix, apply, rinse off = ½ hour

  Save = $ 108 and 1.5 hours

  Cellulite or body tone product Department store brand = $120

  Dress, travel, window shop = 2 hours DIY = Free from your coffee maker. Empty the coffee maker = 30 seconds Save = $ 120 and 1 hour and 59.5 seconds

  Clean 6 sweaters

  Professional dry clean = $ 36 Book, dress, travel = ½ hour DIY $ 3.60 for eco wool detergent Hand wash = 20 minutes

  Save = $ 32.40 and 10 minutes

  Brewed cup of coffee or espresso Café + tip $2.50 x 20 per month = $50 Dress, travel, line up = ½ hour = 10 hours DIY $10 for bag of quality coffee

  Brew espresso coffee = 3 minutes

  Save = $40 and 9 hours

  House cleaning

  Weekly maid service $80 x 4 weeks = $ 360 Gym membership and travel x 4 weeks = $ 80 Dress, workout, travel = 2.5 hours

  DIY eco friendly = $20 for cleaning products Cleaning while working out = 1.5 hours or less Save = $ 420 and one hour

  Curtains for 8 windows

  (2 panels per window)

  Discount department store $ 480 plus tax Custom made $600 DIY

  DIY Thrift store (Eco Friendly) = $40 DIY Home sewing = $ 120 for materials. Save $ 360 to $ 580

  Drinking Water Bottled

  24 @ $1.25 per week $30 x 4 weeks $ 120 DIY Water filter $ 8.33 per month Save = $111.67 per month

  Plus keep plastic bottles out of landfill and avoid the toxins that leach from plastic that cause prostate cancer, allergies, and other ills.

  Baby Diapers and Wipes

  Disposable = $ 75 per month

  Weekly shop, dress, travel, dispose = 4 hours DIY Reusable and detergent $10 per month Soak, wash, dry diapers per week = 2 hours Save = $65 per month and 8 hours

  Plus keep packaging and dirty diapers out of garbage and landfill that leach bacteria and toxins into water sources. Disposable take hundreds of
years to decompose where cloth takes only 1 year to decompose.

  With drinking water and baby diapers and wipes alone that’s a saving of $2,000.04 per year and 2 bags less shopping and garbage to carry in and out of your home every day. Saving roughly 56 hours of your time every year for shopping and garbage disposal. Plus kept a bunch of packaging and disposables out of landfill and toxic chemicals out of sewers and ecosystem and out of your home. And that’s not counting the savings on bargain hunting, home skills, and home energy saving tips. Many folks will argue about their time being valuable and how DIY takes time, but when you count up the time it takes to drive, public transport, or walk to and from the dry cleaners or seamstress or beauty spa, or take out garbage, or sort recycling, plus the cost of car maintenance, fuel, or bus fare, plus tips it adds up. Plus you pay cash out off pocket on top of those costs and the time you spend getting somebody else to do it for you. With DIY you can spend more time at home and have more money in the bank for a deposit on a house, a mortgage payment, or for a real emergency, plus live a healthier lifestyle with added long-term savings on health costs. Watching television or playing video games for more than 2 hours a day is not relaxing and can cause attention deficit and other mental disorders. The average American spends 4 hours in front of the TV screen every day. If you spent 2 hours a day DIY instead of in front of the screen you could save your eyes, your mental health, and a whole lot of money. That $ 2,000 to $15,000 could be in a bank earning compound interest and an improved credit rating. The bad news is that cancer causing and other unhealthy material are everywhere in your home, work, neighborhood, air, and surrounding neighborhoods; including wealthy hoods. The good news is that you as a homemaker can do a lot to minimize risk, save money and time, and give the kids something constructive and educational to do at home. Below are some more Eco Friendly tips that can save health costs in the future.