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  Wealthy Men for Money or Love “Informative and very useful for all levels of the industry. Jessica knows what she is talking about and then some.” – Gina L - VIP Escort

  “A fun to read practical journey into the life and business of a working girl though a working girl’s eyes. A real page turner.” - Bradley M - Luxury Male Escort

  “Jessica’s 30 year insight in to our industry and men’s desires is a valuable document that should be on every woman’s reading list” - Davina J – Luxury Companion

  “It would be difficult to see how any escort or woman following this book’s advice can fail to succeed on any level of the escort industry and in straight life.” Lady Anne B – VIP Escort

  “Surprisingly well written and full of information that men as well as women should know about their own intimate needs.” Sarah Jane T – Luxury Companion

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  Wealthy Men For $ Money Or ❤ Love

  21.2 Century Guide for VIP Escorts and Single Women

  By Jessica diamond Retired VIP Escort & Debutant

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  Disclaimer The author and publishers of this book are NOT RESPONSIBLE in any manner whatsoever for any injury or loss that may occur by reading or following the information in this book. This book is written as entertainment only and contains information related to working the sex industry and dealing with sex workers. All real names of actual people and establishments are withheld.

  Self Published by Author

  San Francisco, California, USA

  © 2011 Jessica Diamond. All rights reserved

  Book Description Part autobiography, part “how to” book with practical wisdom and common sense business and dating techniques. Authored by a former luxury companion to royalty, banking, and fashion moguls, and celebrities, now a life coach and business development consultant. A no holes barred comprehensive and sometimes witty and dark humored look at how the sex industry and dating wealthy men works from a veteran insider perspective. Includes practical lessons and homework in setting goals, attracting wealthy men, keeping them interested, basic money management, fashion and photo styling, basic etiquette, staying safe, client screening, privacy protection, doing business legally, and how to tastefully use the Internet and advertising. It includes tips on multitasking errands and fitness to saving money by being eco friendly to advanced dating techniques, to making handmade pasta for an abs workout. This book is not just how to guide for hookers and sugar babies, it’s a must read bible for the modern single woman.

  v Dedicated to my very understanding family and husband and to everybody who told me to write about my life, and to Bridget (AKA Barbie).

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  Table of Contents

  ❧ Author’s Note....................................................................1

  ❦2 30 Years Observing the Industry ......................... 7

  ❦3 Why Be a High Priced Escort? ...............................13

  ❦4 Mental Preparation ..................................................17

  ❦ 5 Who Are You? ............................................................21

  ❦6 Crash Course In Discretion ....................................25

  ❦7 Attracting and Dating ..............................................29

  ❦8 How to Multitask .......................................................33

  ❦9 Tools of a VIP Companion ......................................39

  ❧Part Two.........................................................................45

  ❦10 Why This and Why Me? ........................................47

  ❦13 What Is Your Plan?.................................................59

  ❦14 Where Do You Find Your Target?......................65

  ❦15 How Do You Attract?..............................................69

  ❦16 How Do You Entice? ...............................................77

  ❦17 How Do You Entertain?.........................................83 ❦18 How Do You Screen Dates? ................................. 91

  ❦19 How To Get Them to Pay?................................... 97

  ❦20 How Do Be a Successful Escort? ..................... 101

  ❦21 How Do You Stay Safe? ...................................... 111

  ❦22 How Do You Stay Beautiful? ............................ 121

  ❦23 How Do You Stay Sane? ..................................... 135

  ❦24 How Do You Safe Sex? ........................................ 147

  ❦25 What Do Men Want?........................................... 153

  ❦26 What Do You Wear?............................................ 157

  ❦27 How Do You Keep A Man?................................. 167

  ❦28 What Other Kinds Of Sex Work? .................... 171

  ❦29 What Can You Learn From Movies? .............. 181

  ❦31 How Do You Save Money?................................ 193

  ❦32 Who are Famous Sex Workers?...................... 201

  ❦33 How to Avoid Drug Addiction? ....................... 211

  ❦34 Real World Testing............................................. 215

  ❦34 Plutonic Test Dates............................................. 223

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  ❧Advice for Men

  ❦35 This Is Your “Me" Time ...................................... 229

  ❦36 What Kind of Provider....................................... 231

  ❦37 Finding Quality Provider ................................. 235

  ❦38 Money ...................................................................... 239

  ❦39 In The Bedroom ................................................... 241

  ❦40 Gifts .......................................................................... 245

  ❦41 Ongoing Relationships....................................... 249

  ❧ Closing Notes........................................................ 253

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  ❧ Author’s Note This book was written over a period of 12 months from workshops and blogs and essays by the author. It includes 30 years of professional tips, observations, dating and bedroom techniques, etiquette, healthy

  styling, business

  lifestyle, saving money, fashion

  coaching and more in a comprehensive handbook for every woman seeking a wealthy man for whatever reason, and to help sex workers attract respectful clients and improve their safety. It’s also an interesting read for hobbyists and fans of the subject, with well written succinct informative and sometimes fun, other times dark, and other times purely practical writing styles. Each chapter contains learning points, instructions, explanations, materials list, and homework and is a whole workshop. It is a year’s worth of professional coaching in a book for you to educate yourself in privacy for a fraction of the price.

  ❦1 How Did I Get Into The Sex Industry?

  Brief background history and nutshell bio of my influences and sex work career, so you understand where I’m coming from and how I got to know what I know. I grew up partly in the suburbs and partly in the country, mother died at 8, mixed up relationships with family, and fondled by the headmaster of my country elementary school. In high school I was bullied by other girls for being pretty, and fondled by male friends in the school library, so it kind of messed up my view of myself as well as my social and dating skills. I attended finishing school, as well as from little girls all women in our family learned to sew, cook, lay a table, converse, ballroom dance, and hold our own amongst the social upper classes, as well a
s grow veggie gardens, care for animals, and swing hammers. I got pregnant at 16 by a boyfriend and my family helped me through a termination, but father and stepmother didn’t want me to take the Pill, saying there would be no sex in future (Strict 1950’s upbringing). This was the 1970’s when young peoples views on sex were not 1950’s. It blew my mind in an already mixed up and hormonal state, and we had big fight and at seventeen I left home in the dead of night to live with a guy I’d met at the state fair and known for only two weeks. After a few months I left him because he was a dim in the head redneck, though very cute, then and off and on back home or grandmothers or couch surfing, and touring with performing arts troupes for a year. I eventually ended up sharing an apartment with two prostitutes for roommates who got me into the biz because I was flat broke and semi homeless and I felt washed up at age 18.5. We worked in a brothel in an industrial area of the Australian East coast, kind of rough and ready. The madam wore muumuu sundresses, sometimes with frills, and was as nutty as a fruitcake. The security and co-manager was a middle age masculine lesbian, the first lesbian I’d ever met. From there I started to gage my value and upgraded to luxury urban houses and higher paying better dressed clients. Waiting between clients I read a lot of books, mostly classical literature, philosophy, comparative religion, historical biographies, metaphysics, and a bit of physics. On days off I’d also studied modern dance and performing arts part time and danced on stage and Television. In the late 1980’s I sent myself to Europe to study fine art and worked as an escort and companion in ultra highend circles with companies, royalty, politicians and major name fashion moguls. The lifestyle was great; I was taken to lunch at restaurants where one bottle of wine was a whole week’s salary for the average person. I played in private rooms at casinos where British Princes, American Presidents, and Arabian Princes played, wagering $10,000 or more on a single turn of a roulette wheel. I was given bottles of fine vintage Champagne to take home and taken shoe shopping in Harrods and chic boutiques. All expenses paid trips and shopping in Europe and free memberships to the most exclusive casinos and clubs became normal. It was the perfect part time job for an art student with finishing school training. After college and my first marriage I worked off and on for 3 years chairmen of multi national

  race track and hotel owners, in high-end table-dancing clubs where women wore full-length evening gowns when not dancing on the table and there was no lap dancing. As a high-end table dancer I earned three times the weekly wage of a full time waitress, during a single a lunchtime shift and evening shifts more than a high-end lawyer per hour. No clients touching me and no opening my legs, just talking and semi nude go-go dancing. By then I had more life interests was very much ready to leave the industry. I started working with nonprofits during the later part of my sex industry career, eventually retiring from the sex industry altogether to work and volunteer with non-profits in the arts, youth, music, environment, media and community services full time. My community work is mostly to find for myself and for other women better things to do to better their lives. I moved away from my old haunts and now nobody but my husband knows what I used to do. But I am more concerned now than ever for the increase in women entering the industry and my non-profit, research, and consulting work have kept me up to speed on business skills, modern sex industry practices, software, and the Internet. Which is how and why I have designed this training manual and made it available. Note: Jessica Diamond is not my real name of course; it’s a working name, one of many. I liked to change names when I moved or changed work places. Previous work names have included Hannah, Hannah Brown (Porgy and Bess the musical), Zoe, Sarah,

  (Carmen Miranda the

  Deborah, Susan, Carmen opera), Magenta, Carmen

  Magenta (Rocky Horror Picture Show), Mrs. Kennedy, Jackie O (because of a resemblance), and Catherine D (Catherine Deneuve resemblance). I never really cared for names like Jasmine or Star or Candy or Amber, I couldn’t get into their character, too shallow. Making up and acting out a character can keep the industry in perspective in your head. Part of keeping your sanity and not getting stuck for life in this business is keeping part of yourself to yourself, such as your real name and your day life. It’s a job with a lifestyle, not a lifestyle with a job.

  ❦230 Years Observing the Industry

  More and more women are entering the escort industry and online dating, but there’s not enough education on how to do it safely and discreetly or how to reach substantial goals without getting stuck in mind-blowing substance abuse. women how to be safe and to respect themselves and attract respectful wealthy relationships. I worked my way up from a suburban house with other working girls to luxury high profile legal bordellos to refusing billionaire princes because they wouldn’t wear a condom. I’ve been given life memberships at private casinos and taken to private parties with world famous rock stars hanging out in the kitchen and supermodels and social celebrities wearing real couture. My earnings paid for myself to travel the world and go to private college in London, England. I also I read a lot of books and gave myself and expanded college level education. I had no mentors or teachers, but I wish I had, because it would have short cut reaching some goals by a few years, as well as saved several bucket loads of money and time in therapy. I worked in the sex industry off and on for 20 years and watched it evolve over 30 years and the Internet revolution. During my later stints in the industry I counseled other sex workers including runaway teens and substance abusers. Most folks have had some form of sex abuse or inappropriate conduct or influence as a child, not just those in the sex industry. The sex industry in history was a service to the community that helped prevent rape hang-ups, abusive men, and/or

  This book is about teaching and sexual harassment and pedophilia, because it allowed people to let of steam and sexual tension. Wives and daughters were expected to be chaste and pure, but rulers saw that men needed to let their hair down or they become revolutionary extremists, very like the Taliban of Islam. But now with escorts and porn plastered all over the Internet by teenagers not old enough to understand or appreciate it as an art form, it is negatively affecting the way women are seen and how women see themselves. Concentrated light, the stuff that you are looking at to read a computer or television screen or maybe this book is the strongest form of hypnosis on the planet. Monkey see, monkey do. I mean let’s be really real about men, men can’t help themselves; if they see a naked rump with round hips and round boobs they want to pump it, pure and simple. That urge is primal and it is a very bad idea to provoke primal urges, because they are more likely to turn violent or perverted, such as lifelike life-size sex dolls. That is why, in some communities and religious sects, men can’t marry until they are 30 and have control of their urges. The other problem is that teenage and young girls say stupid things from their lack of life experience that annoy the crap guys and make a guy want to hit them. Sometimes young girls don’t understand what is going on or why a guy hits them, because they aren’t old enough to understand. Almost every red-blooded healthy normal guy at some stage of his life has felt the urge to hit a young girl because of her stupid mouth. And every guy in the world has felt the urge to pump a nice round bottom, straight or gay. So when you put young girls in skimpy or no clothes in suggestive or pornographic poses on the Internet with an invitation to roadside discount sex, you are going to attract trouble. It’s not rocket science it’s the facts of real life and real people’s feelings about stuff. If sex workers were more discreet and less pornographic in their advertising and product styling they would not only get more respect from clients and pimps and attract higher paying clients, they would get more respect from educated women, especially women in the same earning brackets. And those women are judges and lawyers and lobbyists who don’t have a problem with prostitutes and will fight to get laws changed to help people. When I went to college in England I paid for college by working at an oldfashioned upper class hostess club where educated women of a wide variety of ages and shapes would be paid
to dress nicely and talk and have dinner with extremely wealthy men. No sex, no kissing or fondling, strictly just talk and hang out, eat fine food, drink champagne and dance together like a normal couple at a supper club, everybody fully clothed, no back-rooms or hanky-panky or getting crazy… yes really. Hostesses were paid about an average person’s day’s wages for 2 to 3 hours taking to the guy have old-fashioned dating fun and learn what women want. The club closed at a very respectable 10 pm, so husbands could be home to their wives without guilt or temptation and businessmen be at work on time feeling relaxed and refreshed. The club was a safe place for decent men to get some dating practice with quality women without cheating on anybody or being committed to a relationship. It was a sexually neutral place men could get “me” time to relax without bare boobs and g-strings in their faces, brainless diatribe by bottle blonde 18 to 20 something-s, or having to be macho in games with other men. Everything was strictly professional at the club; dating and private coaching or arrangements outside the club were allowed but not to affect one’s job in the club and not associated with club business. More often than not parents would send sons to learn dating skills and sisters sent recently divorced brothers to freshen up dating and nuances. Some sons and recently divorced also paid their regular hostesses to take them to lunch and shopping and to restyle apartments and wardrobes to attract and keep feminine company. Wives, sisters, spinster aunts, and single girls would also go get dating and style coaching from the women. Sot there is a very good reason for the stripper shoes, spandex boy-shorts, drugs, trucker vocabulary, and genital photos are scaring caring people away. It’s also undercutting the sex industry and it’s earning potential as a whole. The reason this is happening is because people who are too young in the head to care are in charge. Not woman is $1000 an hour material, but for most women one client per week at $1,000 for a sleepover is enough to pay rent, healthy insurance, and living expenses plus a little in the bank or to bring up children. The other perk of having very few or only one client is that you can relax, feel safe and be more of a girlfriend, which makes it healthier for your headspace and stress levels, and creates a better experience for the client. That's $50,000 a year at a pace you can physically and mental sustain and keep secret for years on end, like a love affair.