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  Garbage Management A good way to tell if you are wasting money and polluting the planet is by how much garbage you throw away and how much time you spend shopping. If you are throwing out a lot of packaging it means it was made or grown somewhere else and it getting to you caused a lot of pollution. There’s also a lot of your time involved in shopping for it and hauling out it’s packaging to the garbage, minutes here and there add up to hours per week, especially on groceries and household items. If you are driving to the shop every day or two for dinner you are wasting money on gas and car maintenance as well as hours a day in time, your time is money. Instead buy a cookbook and shop for a week’s worth of food at farmers markets with reusable shopping bags for groceries and get several months worth of refillable bulk format for non perishable goods such as rice, flour, sugar, household cleaners, laundry detergents, lotions and shampoos. Nonperishable items such as laundry detergent and shampoo can last for years so you can buy gallons of it and decant it in smaller dispensers. It will save you a surprising amount of cash and hours of household shopping and garbage handling per week. You need to keep your manicure beautiful and stay relaxed for clients, as well as save money to reach your goals.

  Home Cooking Home cooked local organic whole-food doesn’t cause health and obesity problems, because it has no hidden sugars and chemicals, over processing, fats, and less plastic and transport residue. Recent studies state that kids who eat foods with chemical or synthetic fertilizers and pesticides have a higher rate of learning difficulties. You can grow organic food in the yard or a sunny window and kids will eat almost anything they market produce stays supermarkets. Food in supermarkets is 2 weeks old before it is put on the shelves, but farmers’ market is picked within a few days, often the same day you buy it. Plus farmers’ market produce is grown locally, creates local jobs, and has local enzymes that help prevent cancer, allergies, and other ailments. grow themselves. Farmers’ fresh 2 weeks longer than

  Plastic Plastic deteriorates and leaches toxins into your food that cause cancer. Get rid of plastic containers and use glass, ceramic, enamel, or food safe metals. If you have to put it in the freezer or microwave, wrap it in unbleached paper before putting it in a plastic container. Reuse bags and containers. Even if you have to buy it in plastic, put it in a non-plastic container when you get home. The other advantage of less plastic and reusing paper bags, shopping bags, and storage containers is that it’s less time hauling trash in and out, and extra less garbage in refillable format. Whatever packaging you haul into your house you have to sort it and haul it out again and your time is money.

  Curtains and Rugs Double layer or more curtains on your windows are viable insulation and you don’t have to own your place to install them. Save on heating and cooling bills by as much as 40%. If it is extra sunny and hot where you live add outdoor blinds and awnings. Rugs on the floor can save another 30 % on heating bills in winter and cool wood floors can save 20% or more on cooling bills in the summer.

  Bleach Ekes The process of making chlorine creates a toxin that causes leukemia. Chlorine is also the main active ingredient in drain cleaners; read the warning label it’s quite scary. If it is next to or near your skin or food, or where you touch, or breathe it must be natural clean to be healthy. Instead use oxygen bleach, does the same job, but is nontoxic. The other name for oxygen bleach is peroxide, which when very diluted is used in toothpaste to whiten your teeth; also to clean and quarterize fresh wounds.

  Homework 1. Replace all chemicals, with eco friendly, organic, and biodegradable.

  2. Start a recycling collection to get cash back.

  3. Start buying food and meats at farmer’s markets and observe your health benefits.

  4. Cook your own food so you know what’s in it and where it comes from.

  5. Replace all your chemical cleaners, garden chemicals, bathroom items and cosmetics with eco friendly, organic, and biodegradable.

  6. Start a recycling collection to get cash back.

  7. Start buying food and meats at farmer’s markets and observe your health benefits.

  8. Minimize your garbage and your shopping time.

  your chemical cleaners, garden bathroom items and cosmetics

  ❦32 Who are Famous Sex Workers?

  One way to learn what to do in the future is to learn how it was done in the past. Reading the biographies of women in the industry can teach you best practices threads as well as ideas for conversation topics with your clients and maybe ideas for your business. Sources for fact checking for the mini bios in this chapter and more history research you can do yourself are Wikipedia.org, IMDB.com, and Google.com searches.

  Famous Sex Workers In History

  Sada Abe Worked in Japan - Born Sada Abe in Japan, 1905, died sometime after 1975, trained to be a respectable geisha but a bout of syphilis left Sada to work in brothels of Tokyo. She eventually became a full time sugar baby to a man called Kichizo Ishida who was into extreme fetish such as asphyxiation. Sada was also very jealous and would fly into famous rages, and eventually in one of her famous rages strangled Ishida to death then chopped off his penis and testicles, and kept them in her handbag until her arrest a few days later. It goes to show that there is only so much a working girl will tolerate from a client. When I think of Sada I imagine a Butoh dancer in a Kimono telling her story.

  Catherine Walters Worked in England and Europe - Born in England 13 June 1839 – died 4 August 1920. One of the last great courtesans of Victorian England, Catherine reportedly worked at a bowling alley in her younger years earning her the nickname of “Skittles” before entering her life as a courtesan. Stunningly beautiful, intelligent, elegant and renowned for discretion, Catherine Walters became one of the great fashion icons of her time. Aristocratic ladies copied the cut of her riding habit, and huge crowds would wait hours to watch Catherine ride horseback through Hyde Park. Catherine’s professional demeanor and exquisite good looks made her most sought after amongst European aristocracy. Catherine’s clients included the Prince of Wales and future King Edward VII, as well as Napoleon III. Catherine’s other clients included the politician Aubrey de Vere Beauclerk, whom she eloped with to America for several months in 1862; Spencer Cavendish, Marques of Hartington later the eighth Duke of Devonshire, whom Catherine chased to New York during the American Civil War; the French finance minister Achille Fouldand and poet Wilfrid Scawen Blunt. Discretion and loyalty to her benefactors became the focal point in Catherine’s career. This gave her high standing the courtesan community and made her a sought after. Catherine retired a wealthy international property owner and well respected, passing away at the decent old age of 80. Even in the 21st century men write of Catherine with respect and awe.

  Marie Duplessis Worked in France - Born Rose Alphonsine Plessis in France January 15, 1824 – died February 3, 1847. French courtesan and inspiration for the main character of La Traviata the opera with the female protagonist 'Marguerite Gautier' later renamed 'Violetta Valéry'." Based on the book by La Dame aux Camélias by Alexandre Dumas who was the younger of Marie’s many lovers. Marie’s father started pimping her out when she was around 12 years of age. At 15, Marie moved to Paris to work in a dress shop." An extremely attractive petite young woman, by 16 Marie was aware of men’s desire of her and what to do with it. Marie added the fake noble prefix "Du" to her name and studied to be a courtesan, such as learning to read, write, and listened to news of world events to be able to have witty conversations with her clients. Marie quickly became a popular courtesan and hostess of a salon popular with politicians, bohemians and mistress of Alexandre Dumas from 1844 to 1845 then became the mistress of composer Franz Liszt, who wanted a deeper relationship than Marie was willing to give. Marie had a respected reputation as a discreet, intelligent, and entertaining lover and remained on good terms with many of her benefactors, long after their relationships ended. thinkers, writers, upper class

  artists. Marie Duplessis was the

  Madam Dora Du Fran Worked USA –
Born Amy Helen Dorothea Bolshaw in England, November 16, 1868 – died August 5, 1934. Dora was successful and infamous madam in the Old West South Dakota town of Deadwood. Dora was a beauty in her youth, but this was the Wild WILD West, practically anarchy, so Dora’s virginity didn’t last long. Before the 1900’s without her virginity a girl was pretty much thrown out onto the street to fend for herself and ostracized by friends and family, even if it was rape or incest. Basically toast. With no reputation and no protection and no connections and no options, Dora became a teenage prostitute around the ages of 13 or 14. Then Dora became a dancehall girl, less invasive, and changed her name to Amy Helen Bolshaw. When Dora was 15 the gold rush and thousands of miners expanded Deadwood’s market. Amazingly intelligent and savvy entrepreneurial Dora at the tender age of 15 became a Madam and opened her own brothel. Back then pretty girls were not common, especially in the Wild West, so Dora chose women for their hygiene, grooming, and fashion sense, including Calamity Jane. Over years Dora opened several brothels including one named Diddlin’ Dora’s in Belle Fourche, South Dakota, which is where Calamity Jane returned later in life to do cooking and cleaning. I found Dora’s info while researching this book and her story of being a Madam and owning a brothel at 15 years old is quite amazing compared to the 22 year old college students who can’t wrap their heads around basic business needs of 21.2 century USA.

  Cora Pearl Worked in France - Born Emma Elizabeth Crouch in England 1835, died 8 July 1886. Cora was a famous courtesan of the 1800’s French demimonde, a kind of half-world between respectability and prostitution inhabited by luxury courtesans in 19th century Paris. An Englishwoman who became the Queen of Paris courtesans, Cora Pearl, whose first high profile benefactor was the Duke of Rivoli, displayed her beautiful body to full effect. Cora knew how to use her expensive apartments, decor, carriages, wardrobe and horse riding sessions to delights to the eyes of her clients. Cora was infamous for heavy makeup and being the centerpiece of her extravagant lifestyle display. One of Cora’s claims to fame was using glitter. Costly lingerie, extravagant gowns and jewelry worth whole fortunes were the norm in a time when courtesans were status symbols for high profile wealthy men. Cora, Queen of the Parisian courtesans, often wore jewelry given to her by famous clients, including her signature blackpearl necklace gifted to her by the Prince of Orange. Cora had a gambling habit, which was her downfall and she eventually died of intestinal cancer in poverty.

  Lola Montez Worked in Poland, Germany, Australia, USA - Born Maria Dolores Eliza Rosanna Gilbert in Limerick, Ireland, 17 February 1821 – died 17 January 1861 Lola’s father was an officer in the Kings Own Scottish Guard and mother from a respected family. Lola later claimed her Spanish blood though her mother, as a direct descendent of the Count of Montlvo, who settled in Ireland in the 15th Century. Lola’s parents wanted her to marry a 60-year-old judge. Lola instead eloped with a young officer, Lieutenant Thomas James to India where he was stationed, then in Afghanistan where he ran off with another officer’s wife. Lola returned to England then went to Spain to study dance and languages, then traveled with an older German gentleman to Warsaw, Poland where Lola played bit parts in Opera. Petite with raven black hair and bright sparkling blue eyes, Lola’s beauty made up for lack of real talent. In 1844, Lat age 26, Lola went to Paris and was embraced by bohemian circles, then worked as an actress until falling in love with newspaper editor Alexandre Henri Dujarier, who was later killed in a duel in leaving Lola devastated. Lola left Paris in 1846, to perform in theaters in Germany. Witty, intelligent, and dazzling beautiful Lola enchanted 60 old King Ludwig I. Catholic aristocracy was not happy when Ludwig made Lola Countess of Landsfeld; 19 months later politics forced Lola to leave Germany. After touring and working the United States and Australia Lola settled in New York City. Later Lola joined worked for the Magdalene Society for reformed prostitutes. After a long illness (possibly syphilis), Lola was buried in Green-Wood Cemetery in New York City as Mrs. Eliza Gilbert.

  Veronica Franco Worked in Italy - Born in Venice Italy in 1546 – died 1591. Published century Venice. courtesan from her mother who trained Veronica to use her natural assets to achieve a marriage. Still in her teens, Veronica wealthy physician, but the marriage ended badly. Veronica turned to serving as a courtesan to wealthy men and quickly found out how to meet and socialize with leading noblemen and rulers of the time. After a brief liaison with Henry III, King of France, Veronica was listed as one of the foremost courtesans of Venice. Veronica Franco wrote two volumes of poetry: Terze rime in 1575 and Lettere familiari a diversi in 1580. Veronica also published books of letters and other leading writers. Success in her publishing and courtesan businesses allowed Veronica to found a charity for courtesans and their children. In 1575, during the plague, Veronica Franco had to leave Venice loosing much of her wealth when her house was looted. In 1577, Veronica defended herself in an Inquisition where she was on trial for witchcraft and the charges were dropped. It is possible that her clients among Venetian nobility assisted her acquittal. Later in life Veronica’s last major benefactor died leaving her without support and she is believed to have died in poverty. Feature Film loosely based on Veronica Franco “Dangerous Beauty” 1998.

  Italian poet and courtesan in 16th Veronica learned how to be a

  beneficial married a

  Cynthia Payne Worked in England in the 1970s and 1980s, born 24 December 1932, in Bognor Regis, West Sussex. Cynthia worked her way up form a party hostess and brothel maid to owning and running her own house in Streatham in South West London. Cynthia gained national attention in 1978 when police found a sex party in full swing in her house. Elderly men would pay for tickets or “Luncheon Vouchers” to dress up in lingerie and be spanked by young women and other role-play. Vice squad raided her home again in 1986 during another "special party" and the ensuing court case, although acquitted, ended Cynthia’s “party career”. Two films loosely based on her life Wish “You Were Here” (1987), about her adolescence and “Personal Services” (also 1987) about her adult life. Cynthia Payne has made many appearances on television talk shows and as an afterdinner speaker. In 2006 Cynthia launched a signature line of adult services and products.

  Calamity Jane Worked in the USA - Born Martha Jane Cannary Burke May 1, 1852, died August 1, 1903. Calamity Jane had very masculine looks but that wouldn’t have mattered to the likes of whisky-sodden soldiers. Calamity Jane was a renowned frontierswoman, professional scout, and actual Indian killer. Calamity’s claim to fame was an acquaintance to Wild Bill Hickok. Later in life Calamity cooked and cleaned for a brothel in Belle Fource. Calamity had drinking issues and passed away at age of 51.

  Heidi Fleiss Worked in USA and International – Born December 30, 1965 – Heidi worked as an middle to upper class escort then got her dad to buy her a swanky house overlooking LA and set up her own agency mostly catering to wealthy Arabs and Movie executives. Heidi’s downfall was indiscretion and bad business and staff handling. Probably caused by substance abuse, presumably starting with cocaine, then freebasing, then eventually when she left the industry meth. There have been several films, documentaries, news features and television appearances with or about Heidi. My theory is drugs in above order because of what I’ve personally seen happen in the high-end industry and documentary interview reports of her mood swings and dialog, plus the way Heidi got into and responded to the situation of being busted, and the particular way her looks and social-celebrity degraded. The madam that started Heidi off is a classic real madam, batty but savvy, they all go batty after 20 years of dealing with folks’ hang-ups and insecurities. That’s what the high-end industry really is, dealing with wealthy people’s hang-ups and insecurities. At the time of publishing this book Heidi was in Nevada living with some parrots, the feathered kind and working as a guest journalist, speaker and, TV show host.

  Homework 1. Do your own research of biographies of famous sex workers and madams

  2. Make a list of the items and tips about their lives and careers t
hat you can use in your own life and career.

  3. Make a list of the things in their careers that are not recommended to do, such as substance abuse and seeing too many clients.

  ❦33 How to Avoid Drug Addiction?

  If your clients want you to drink or snort or smoke drugs with them - fake it, teach yourself and practice how to look like you are taking drugs or drinking but you are not actually imbibing. Substances cloud your sense of judgment, never forget this person has issues, else he wouldn’t be taking lots of drugs or getting drunk. Somebody has to remain sober incase somebody else has a bad trip and flips out or overdoses, because you don’t need police or ambulances or their questioning unless it’s an actual life or death situation, and you don’t need to be too wasted to escape when a coke freak or crack head or belligerent drunk client turns nasty. Not to mention the fact that you don’t want to end up like Heidi or others whose professional substance intake turned into a nasty habit. Tooting a couple or a few lines once or twice a week with clients can give you an addiction without realizing it. After a few weeks you begin tooting in your day life at parties and nightclubs, then by yourself when your friend’s have gone to sleep, then in the morning to get rid of the hangover, that is how addiction happens to working girls. If you’ve realized you have a drug or alcohol habit, go into 6 months rehab and twice a week therapy and time off sex work to do a day job and art. I’ve personally found that combination has the best chances of stopping or at least toning down substance intake to an acceptable level to get my headspace back together. The sooner you do it the sooner you can patch any misunderstandings and earn big money again. Substance abuse is 10 times more addictive for those in the sex and companionship industries than

  because of the extra stress of