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  What should be in your purse? • Disposable mobile phone dedicated to work only, does not have your full list of clients or their contact info, only the clients for that day.

  • A palm size touch screen device to process credit cards and to get map directions and web searches.

  • Cab fair home and to your next job.

  • Petty cash for coffee and snacks on the go.

  • Condoms and dental dams.

  • Small size mascara, lip-gloss, foundation and powder to touch up makeup.

  • Travel size toothbrush, toothpaste, and breath fresher.

  • Travel size bottle of expensive perfume that compliments your scent.

  • A fresh pair of panties for damp emergencies.

  • Pen and small notebook for address, name, and number to your next job.

  • If it's your period, 3 tampons and two sea sponges in a discreet little bag.

  If you are doing a costume fantasy, toys, masks, or any other specifics that the client requested, carry them in a separate fashionable but again subtle larger bag. Do not wheel in a suitcase unless you are going out of town with your client. (Better still have the client buy you new outfits while on your travels.

  Tip If a client buys you clothes, jewelry, perfume, or and accessories, wear them for him the next time you see him, else he may get his ego miffed and not buy you any more.

  Homework 1. Check out runway shows of latest and upcoming seasons online.

  2. Go to high-end fashion specialists and learn what real fashion looks and feels like.

  3. Buy a used sewing machine, in good working order.

  4. Get a sewing kit: scissors, tape measure, pins, hand sewing needles.

  5. Get an adjustable dress form fit and tailor clothes exactly to your shape.

  6. Find a pattern of a Mod style dress online or at a local fabric store.

  7. Get sewing lessons, your first project being your Mod dress.

  8. Make the first dress in a nice organic cotton or linen for yourself, then or work 3 more in silk for evening and day, and 2 linen for summer, all with silk linings.

  9. Put your working kit together to go in your purse.

  10. Practice finding things in your purse with your eyes closed.

  ❦27 How Do You Keep A Man?

  As a professional sex worker repeat clients are best because no need for training or background checking every session. It’s the same with dating and relationships. You get to know more of the other person’s likes and dislikes and visa versa. If clients are mostly regulars you save a lot of time and cash in not having to advertise and chat up new clients as much. Getting repeat clients, especially high paying wealthy men takes effort and focus. Giving a good impression the first and every time, staying in contact, keeping them wanting more, and consistent good service are the key to keeping good clients returning to any business. In the sex industry a client that pays well, is clean and polite, sex is short gentle and sweet, and he doesn't make you feel drained or creeped out. This is important to keep stress levels down and for consistent good service. If the client creeps you out or drains you, you can't expect to be 100% with him or other clients, and you start to dread your sessions with him. It may be good for the client, but not good for your emotional, physical, or mental health or the next client you may have to see that day or night or the day after. A working girl must be discerning about her regulars and choose only those who don't drain or stress her. The money is just not worth it otherwise, because of the extra therapy you have to pay for during the years after, and you will need it. Be extra good to your good clients so they think about seeing you again.

  Must Have Tools • A separate email account to communicate with regulars so you can keep track of what you are writing to whom, without getting it mixed up with your other clients and work. Use this email account to write nice letters to your regulars and send them electronic cards for birthday, Easter, Christmas, and Father's Day (if they are a Dad) You want communications to look like a normal email from a friend, unless the client asks you to be sexy.

  • A newsletter especially for your regulars with links to occasional new photos, blog, tour dates etc. Send it out no more than once a month, so they don't feel spammed. Remember to immediately remove anybody from the list that asks to be removed, again so they don't feel spammed, or resentment, also to keep your newsletter legal.

  • An extra line or naming system connected to your work phone so that your regulars don't have to unblock their numbers and can feel more discreet. The easier and safer it is for regulars to contact you the easier it is for them to rebook you.

  • Business cards with just your name, city, and email address to your regulars only email account, and a phone number with a direct regulars line to your work phone. This card is only being given to clients who make you feel good and that you want to see again.

  • A "members only" section of your web site that you can give free membership to your favorite regulars, so they feel like the are your personal VIP and see that you've invested extra special effort in them.

  • Keep all correspondence light, friendly, and welcoming so your dates will comfortable to come back to get some more of your positive company.

  Homework 1. Give you business practices a makeover using the above list and procedures.

  2. Get everything together in the above list.

  3. Rearrange any current advertising or web sites and newsletters and procedures to suit the above list and techniques.

  ❦28 What Other Kinds Of Sex Work?

  This section is to provide basic info on common different kinds of sex work to get a general understanding of what sex workers do in different capacities.

  Phone Sex Phone sex workers never see the client ever and the client never sees them, so it's not actually prostitution. Phone sex is when the client is on one end of the phone and the worker is on the other end faking sex verbally over the phone. In the UK phone sex is often prerecorded, so the worker doesn't even talk to the client.

  Cam Girl or Boy Web cam workers sit at home on their laptops and show themselves live on the internet and don't see the client but the client can see them perform sex or masturbation or just chat naked or in costume. While it is a safe non-intercourse way to work and you never have to meet a client in person, you never know who is watching, it could be your horny teenage brother and his buddies, or your boyfriend or Dad, your professor at college, or a straight life co-worker. Web cam work is the 21st century version of a peep show, but with a much larger audience.

  Porn Star Working in porn is similar to web cam, but with a director and sometimes full video crew looking up your vagina and the videos are prerecorded and resold, instead of just you alone with your computer and camera. Being a porn star has similar advantages and disadvantages of web cam work, except that porn stars have sex with a lot of different people, often without condoms or dental dams. While a successful porn star can make a lot of money if she produces her own videos, the risk for HIV AIDS, because of unprotected sex with multiple partners, is higher than protected sex work. I thin porn was better when it was shot on 35 mil film, then it was more creative and artistically watchable and inspiring.

  Streetwalkers Streetwalkers are women who stand on the sidewalk and pick up guys in cars. Mostly they are paid per sex act. It is the most dangerous form of prostitution so the walkers usually have pimps to so-called protect them and usually take a good chunk of your money for the privileged. Not all pimps are bad, but this kind of work is not recommended under any circumstances, because it is too dangerous and a lot of work for not much money. Many streetwalkers are take heavy drugs to deal with the work and can't be trusted, because they are constantly desperate from emotional distress and needing a fix.

  Peep Show Workers see clients from behind a glass screen in a booth of an establishment basically like a sideshow with private booths. The clients drop tokens into a slot and the worker dances, takes her clothes of, and often masturbates. No direct cont
act with the client is required and workers pay a fee to work. In San Francisco, California, peep shows are tolerated to keep streetwalkers out of sight and safe from pimps and clients cruising in cars for sex off the street.

  Lap Dancers Lap Dancers work in strip clubs and don't do full intercourse, some rub their bodies against the client until he cums and other means of client satisfaction. While this work is not physically invasive, the girls are often bitchy and the clients usually desperate, creepy, young, lonely, or and disrespectful. Please note that there are many different kinds of strippers and not all of them are lap dancers or do sex work. There are some nice strip clubs in different cities around the world where you can make decent money just dancing topless, but you have to have the looks, body, good costumes, and be able to dance or at least move well to music and hold your own amid unsavory company. Most clubs charge a service fee and sometimes this can be expensive, which you have to pay before your shift starts. You also need to have a lot of self-confidence because you have to hustle to get guys to give you money and there is a lot of stunning competition in high-end clubs. Some lunchtime shifts I would make more than a high priced lawyer per hour.

  Sensual Massage Sensual Massage or Tantra workers give their clients a normal massage then end by masturbating the client until he cums, called a "happy ending" also called a "rub and tug". Most of these girls work incall, usually a couple of girls in an apartment or house or massage spa, and charge about half of what full service (full intercourse) in a brothel costs. This is probably the least invasive and fairly easy form of physical sex work, but it can leave you feeling kind of dirty. If you want to find out more about Tantra to give that exotic touch to your service list there are plenty of books available. Don't bother with Tantra workshops, a book will give you the same info and save you several hundred dollars.

  Lot Lizard A "lot lizard" is a commonly encountered special case of street prostitution. Lot lizards mainly serve those in the trucking industry at truck stops and stopping centers. Prostitutes will often proposition truckers using a CB radio from a vehicle parked in the non-commercial section of a truck stop parking lot, communicating through codes based on commercial driving slang, then join the driver in his truck. Many of these girls are underage and probably abused. (Lot Lizard info courtesy of Wikipedia, because I'd never heard of it before I came across it while researching other kinds of prostitution, either way it sounds high risk and many truckers are not the cleanest or most gentle or polite men.)

  Escort or Call Girl The client orders an escort or call girl by phone or the Internet and she visits the client at their residence or hotel or place of work to provide companionship and usually sex for an hour or night or weekend or go traveling with them. They either work for an agency, a madam, a pimp, or are independent with their own web site, screen their own clients, and arrange their own bookings.

  Sugar Baby A sugar baby is a modern day courtesan or concubine, where she only sees one client, Sugar Daddy, on a regular basis and he pays all her bills and gives her spending money. Often the sugar daddy will provide apartment or condo and car as well as college tuition or other big-ticket items. The disadvantages of being sugar baby is that it is similar to a marriage where you may or may not be able to see anyone else and do as you please anytime you please, else risk losing your sugar daddy's patronage.

  Gold Digger A Gold Digger woman who marries wealthy men for money or social climbing then divorces them to move onto her next client. The advantages of being a gold digger are legal and financial security, as well as being accepted by general society. The disadvantages of being a gold digger are that the client's feelings may be involved and divorce can be messy and traumatic for both the client and the gold digger.

  Brothel Brothel workers work in an establishment where clients come to see them for sex. These kinds of clients are usually low budget, walk in off the street, and will bang you for the full hour. They aren't really interested in conversation or good company, they only want sex and to ejaculate as many times as you will let them in a half hour or hour. Most brothels take about 50% of your earnings to cover the costs of maintaining the house, laundering the towels and bedding, security, reception, and taking bookings. While security is good and you don't have to advertise or keep in contact with clients, you do have to bang anywhere from 5 to 10 or more guys a night to make decent money (by sex worker standards) and it is tough work on your body and head space. The other thing to worry about is that some unscrupulous brothel owners put hidden cameras in the rooms and sell porn videos of you without your consent. It happened to me in an establishment that was considered to be most high-end adult entertainment venue in Australia. This was before the Internet and table dance clubs in Australia.

  Window Girls Window girls work from shop window. In Amsterdam, Holland, the women actually sit in a shop window to advertise and men can cruise up and down the Red Light district and pick and choose whom they want to see. A girlfriend of mine did this for while in the late 1980’s and didn't have any complaints, but experiences may vary.

  Hostess Hostesses work in a nightclub, also called a clip joint, where men pay for their drinks and dinner and tip for the hostesses for her company. Common in Japan, Europe, and London. In some cases, not all, the hostess goes home with the client for sex and more money. Often regulars will buy gifts for the hostess. This kind of work has its advantages in that providers meet and talk to clients before going home with them. Often clip joint clients have quite a bit of money to spend, because clip joints are very expensive to get into and buy drinks. Some clip joints are members only, so only members and their personal guests are allowed in. Usually the decor and music in these clubs are cheesy, but the clients are usually nice and appreciative of your company. I worked in a clip join while putting myself through college in London, and it is how I got to meet very high-end clients such as race track owners, royalty, merchant financiers, and chairmen of international banks.

  In-call In-call Girls work from an apartment or house, often by themselves or with one or two others. Where the client can come and see the girl without having to host. Some times they work with other women in the establishment or have a personal assistant to screen clients and greet them at the door. For security reasons it is best two work with others or at least have a personal assistant to be there in case something happens.

  BDSM Bondage and Discipline and Sadomasochism workers usually don't have intercourse. What they do is make their clients either feel disempowered by treating them like slaves, restraining them, and whipping them, or make the client feel empowered by letting them restrain and order around and even whip the sex worker. The person who is empowered is generally called the Dom or Dominatrix or Sadist and the disempowered person is called the Sub or Submissive or Masochist. Strangely enough it is the Sub who is in usually in control. The dictionary definition of sadism is "Sexual pleasure obtained by inflicting harm on others". BDSM joke: "Hit me" said the Masochist, "No" said the sadist.

  Fetish Fetish workers are specialists that don't usually provide full intercourse. What fetish workers provide is a situation where the client fantasies not usually accepted in This can be anything from being an adult baby where the worker dresses him in adult size baby clothes, changes his adult size diaper, and feed him with an adult size baby bottle, to role play in any fantasy theme you can imagine. The goal of fetish is to give the client a total out of normal reality experience, not necessarily sex.

  can indulge in normal society.

  Hand Job Hostess A Hand Job Hostess is where men go to a club or back of a bar where they put their penis through a hole in the wall and a woman (Hand Job Hostess) in a separate room on the other side of the wall massages his penis until he comes. The client and the provider never see each other. Some times little old ladies worked as hostesses at these establishments.

  Notes: If I've left anybody out please let me know. The "Lot Lizard" and Hand Job Hostess were to me, and I’m sure there's more out I’ve not heard of. It’s
kind of fun and interesting to learn something new everyday.

  Homework 1. Define what kind of sex worker you want to be and why.

  2. Define what kind of sex worker you don't want to be and why.

  3. Research if there are any other kinds of sex workers not listed above.

  ❦29 What Can You Learn From Movies?

  Just because you’ve read this book and done all the homework doesn’t mean that you don’t need to keep learning. You never stop learning because the industry, fashion, and men’s tastes and quirks never stop changing and evolving. Since the 1970’s movies and since the 2,000’s television have real sex workers consulting on how to make media about sex workers realistic, not totally realistic, but enough to pick up useful tips here and there and get glimpses of what sex work is really like. Use web searches, books, web sites and movies about sex workers to pick up tips and to understand what you are doing and to stay safe and keep improving your product.

  Media About Getting Men for Money The screen and what women seeking wealthy men for money or love can learn from them … in no particular order. The following movies are loosely based on real characters and situations but are somewhat romanticized. Not all of the procedures are exact or correct for work in the VIP industry or to attract a wealthy man, but they do give useful tips here and there and inspirations and history. Use common sense and awareness of your situation when emulating anything from a movie or television in real life. The following movies and television serried have useful information and demonstrations. Most of these films and television shows can be seen in their entirety for free on the web.

  The Girlfriend Experience - 2009 – low budget about a VIP escort in New York – Fictional but realistic look at what a VIP escort does in the early 21st Century and some of the pitfalls and hang-ups.