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  Hair Style Modern, chic, goes with everything, and easy to style and care for, but some clients do love long hair. Most sex workers take showers several times a day and travel from one end of town to the other. If your hairstyle needs blow dryers and curling irons you are wasting time, money, and stress levels. If your hair is naturally curly get a style that compliments your curls. Don't be afraid of short hair if it is necessary to compliment your face and skin and hair texture. When choosing a style go with what is appropriate to your real age and it will make you look younger and more attractive, strange but true.

  Hair Color Natural looking with natural products and done by a professional to make your hair look young and healthy. I recommend Aveda as they have great hair and make up products using natural ingredients, their salons are clean and relaxing, and their instructors are very high quality. Keep a root touch up kit at home for between salon visits; never show roots on a date. When choosing a color, do not go blond if you are not naturally blond, amongst big or old money bottle blonds are a long time running joke. Instead enhance your compliments your skin tone younger, more polished, and more fitting with the upper classes.

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  Hair Texture Soft, clean natural, and shiny always. Dull hair from bad diet or illness, or dry hair that's heat damaged from daily blow-drying or curling irons, or chemically damaged from non natural products, is not nice hair for a client to run his fingers through. Dry hair frizzes and doesn't hold color, and makes a person look older. Unlike being on a stage as a performer far away from the audience, as a companion entertainer you are up close in for hours on end. If you were paying somebody to sit in your lap so you can put your face in her hair you would like it to be silky soft, clean, natural, and shiny.

  Skin Quality Even, unblemished, glowing, and firm all over from head to toe. Good skin is diet, lots of water, saunas or steam baths, and exfoliating and lots of moisturizer. Vegan is the cleanest diet for clear skin along with almonds and fresh fruit. Salmon and dairy helps wrinkles. Honey is always better than sugar or diet sweetener as honey rehydrates your skin and body from the inside. If you have acne try taking zinc supplement for a few weeks, if your condition worsens you should see a skin and diet specialist. Put a drop of pure vitamin E oil on blemishes and scars before you go to bed at night and they will be visibly faded by morning. Always cleanses and moisturize your face and clean and floss your teeth before you go to bed. Get regular facials with natural products. A great full body facial is to rub yourself all over with avocado oil before you go to bed and shower next morning; don't forget to use old bed sheets as the oil can be greasy. Sleep is one of the best things for fading dark circles and improving skin tone and glow, cut down the late night parties and get more rest time. Don't get a facial or peel just before seeing a client, your skin will be red and may break out; wait at least 24 to 48 hours. Smoking cigarettes, living where there is a lot of air pollution, sitting up all night on the computer, and never getting sunshine on your skin can make your skin look slightly gray and pasty; so take precautions. Easy overall skin tone is to have a cold shower after a hot shower or bath, every day; the French swear by it, it does work and it prevents colds and flu.

  Tip: Don’t spend big bucks on skin care and cosmetics. Low cost brands, such as Neutrogena and Oil of Olay and natural organic brands do the same job, if not better than top shelf products for a fraction of the price.

  Makeup Always natural looking and only for highlighting your best features. Your makeup should be not loud or flashy. Makeup appropriate for your age makes you look younger, just like hair. Mascara should not be gluggy or flake on your skin; lipstick or lip-gloss should be a light brushing with same color lip liner. To make sure you are using your makeup correctly go to a makeup consultant at a spa or fashion stylist, get your makeup professionally done and watch how they do it. You might also find that their choices in colors make you look younger. If you are on a budget, so long as your foundation is good quality (doesn't have to be expensive), blush, lip gloss, and eye-shadow can be low end, but not gaudy. Good natural makeup should take no more than 15 minutes to apply and

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  Body Tone Firm and fit or at least without cellulite means daily exercise and organic whole foot diet and lots of water. 30 minutes per day cardio and 30 minutes per day stretch. If you have a swimming pool, 30 minutes of breaststroke exercises every muscle in your body and helps breasts perky. Instead of going to gym or aerobics class you can save time and money by making your exercise time multitask. Examples: yoga distresses the mind and massages the internal organs; bicycle riding gets fresh air, connection to your surroundings, and see new sights of interest, run errands; dancing brings stamina and coordination and is entertaining; martial arts gives you strength of mind and physical self defense; volunteering meets new friends and gives you topics to talk about with your dates.

  Cellulite Cellulite is not beautiful, but you don't always need liposuction to get rid of it or prevent it. Here are some nonsurgical low and no cost remedies and preventatives for cellulite.

  • Eat organic whole grain breads and fresh greens and fruit daily.

  • No genetically modified or processed foods.

  • Massage any cellulite daily in the shower, digging in with your fingers.

  • Honey instead of sugar or sweeter.

  • Exercise at least 30 minutes cardio daily, dance, bicycle, stairs, swimming etc.

  • Fresh lemon juice in drinking water, 8 pints a day.

  • Rub coffee grounds into cellulite areas and rinse off with cold water; also a great all over body scrub, skin firmer, and garden mulch. You can coffee grounds are free from any cafe or coffee shop or your home coffee maker.

  • No refined or pre-made or frozen foods.

  • Organic brown rice instead of potatoes.

  • Organic whole grain pasta instead of white flour pasta.

  • Avoid deep fried foods all together.

  • Drink a tablespoon of organic, extra virgin olive oil ever day.

  • A few drops of Juniper or Ginger oil in body lotion and massage cellulite every day.

  • If you have to eat meat, it should be lean, organic grass fed, no additives or hormones or antibiotics.

  Body Proportion Every person's body is differently shaped. Muscle and fat are differently distributed in different areas due to lifestyle, posture, bone structure, eating habits, and types of physical movement. To attract a man needs the shape a man wants. While men think they want a super model, because that is what media has programmed them to think they want, what they are unconsciously attracted to are curves with a welldefined waist. The strange medical coincidence is that women with hips and curves and a little padding have healthier babies with better learning abilities. But if you don't have curves or you have too many curves there are specialized exercises, diet and postures to trim, tone, or beef up areas of your body that need attention without plastic surgery. Custom tailoring your clothes also does wonders instantly. Looking good and feeling like you are looking good improves your self-confidence and enhances your natural beauty. Make beauty a part of your life goals and daily routine.

  Balance, Strength, and Coordination Dancing, martial arts and other physical coordination arts for an hour or two per day will keep you fit and toned all your life. The hardest thing to do is dance gracefully in very high stilettos, but doing it also teaches your body to move elegantly on the balls of your feet, which prevents injury.

  Posture and Grace Sit up straight, shoulders back, back straight, and head high yet relaxed. Do not lean in to eat at the table, do not sit with your legs opened or crossed at the knees. Practice living, eating, walking and and inch stiletto heals. Put your weight on the balls of your feet and bend your knees slightly to prevent injury. Always keep your head, shoulders, hips, and heals in a vertical line. No, I'm not joki
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  Tattoos and Scars If you are not doing the extreme rocker chick thing, ala TV celebrity Jessie James’ dalliances, then you don't want to be showing tattoos or scars, except if a client requests it. To straight wealthy men tattoos mean you are not the girl next door can be trusted type. See the makeup counter at a good department store for tattoo and scar cover-up makeup to cover your tattoos and scars on the job and in your photos.

  Grooming Good nails and eyebrows and everything else clean neat and tidy. Weekly manicures and pedicures can get expensive, but it does multitask as de-stressing or "me" time. Bonus multitasking is a mani-pedi with massage chair and ten minute tanning bed. Nails should be natural looking, preferably long and buffed. No nail polish or a tasteful polish that blends with your make up or clothing. Long fake brightly painted nails with crystals and pictures are a highend no-no-no. Eyebrows should be naturally shaped along your brow bone and plucked or waxed, but never shaved. Under arm hair, legs, arms and bikini line should be waxed or plucked, never shaved. Dab a mix of pure Tee Tree oil, Vitamin E, Aloe Vera, and raw honey on spots from ingrown hairs before bed and after bathing. Remember not to wax or pluck just before or during your period else it will hurt; I’ve done it, it really does hurt. Instead wait till 3 or 4 days after your period to pluck or wax. Wax regularly and pluck in between and the hair will gradually thin out. Don't wax or pluck just before seeing a client, because your skin will have red bumps and may be rough to touch. You will need a professional to do it until you learn how to do it yourself like a professional. You can also get together with girlfriends and groom each other. Or you could also do it in sexy underwear or naked and post photos and web cam to your members.

  Breasts and Buttocks • Walk up and down stairs on the balls of your feet 20 minutes every day for natural bottom lift.

  • Don't wear shoes in the house, walking barefoot or with soft slippers or flip-flops uses all the muscles in your legs and works off cellulite.

  • Do exercises that rotate your waist to whittle it down and tone your side muscles.

  • Ballet, Pilates, and dance exercises lengthen your body and even out proportions, plus help your body keep it together after age 35.

  • Horse riding tones the inner legs and ass, as well as the upper arms and back.

  • Breaststroke swimming firms the chest and lifts the boobs, and tones everything else and is low impact cardio for fitness.

  • Bicycle riding tones and builds thigh and ass muscle and gives low impact cardio for fitness.

  • Massaging your boobs, rotating from the middle over the top, down the side, under and in, and around again 36 times per day, deep breaths, will increase your breast size naturally, because of the way the motion and lift tones the muscles. Yes you will see a difference with in three months, and if you keep doing it - they keep growing I was a 34 B, then 5 years later a 34 DD. True story, the technique was taught to me by an ordained Daoist Priestess in Australia.

  General Health Because you are so up close and intimate with multiple people you need to beef up your body's defenses from colds, flu, infections, and exhaustion. Sick-time loses you money and chemical medicines and vitamin supplements often have side effects, such as bad breath, body odor, and stomach problems. Plus being ill increases frown lines, dulls skin and hair, and affects your good humor and men notice that. The following are some natural ways to keep up body defenses that I've been using for years that work.

  • A bit of fresh ginger in warm water or tea every morning; natural antibiotic.

  • A piece of fresh fruit every day wards; natural antibiotic, good for skin glow.

  • Eat a healthy organic breakfast every day, such as granola and natural yoghurt, no greasy stuff or processed sugar, within 1 hour of rising; natural weight control, energy and defense builder.

  • At least 8 hours of sleep in every 24 hours; so the body can recuperate.

  • A squeeze of fresh lemon juice in 3 pints of drinking water daily; mild cleanse and weight control.

  • Daily dose of Royal Jelly; natural tonic and defense; gives youthful healthy glow.

  • A tablespoon or two of raw honey before bed; natural tonic and defense.

  • Hot bath (not shower) for 20 minutes after work; raises your body temperature to help fight infections, and relaxes your muscles and tension.

  • Filtered water for drinking, cooking and cleaning teeth, washing hair and bathing, and laundry if possible; keeps out extra toxins, softens hair, helps skin glow.

  • Whole grains and fiber rich foods; digestion, metabolism, and cellulite

  • Clean diet and exercise daily; controls cellulite, weight, stress, focus, and overall health.

  • Antioxidant and Omega 3 rich foods; heart health, skin tone, brain food.

  • Eat some organic almonds everyday, great for hair, skin, and nail health.

  • Daily dose of Aloe Vera juice; overall tonic and healthy glow.

  • Daily dose of Iron; stamina, alertness, and treats dark circles under the eyes.

  • Daily dose of good quality Vitamin B complex; energy, alertness and general health.

  • Daily dose of zinc supplement; good for preventing acne and skin problems.

  • Daily dose of Vitamin C from fresh fruit and vegetables; prevents and treats illness.

  Hangover Not a point of beauty, but a point that can affect beauty or being able to function with a clear head, fresh look, and healthy skin. Plus some dates like their women to drink and party and a working girl must also look good in the morning every morning.

  • Always eat beforehand and if possible nibble during the party to help soak up alcohol and if any substances in your stomach.

  • 2 to 4 Tablespoons of honey before bed; helps rehydration, replaces nutrients, distressed the liver.

  • Double dose of vitamin B complex before bed and for breakfast, replaces brain and tissue nutrients.

  • 3 Pint glasses of water with a squeeze of lemon before bed.

  • Drink at least one full glass of water between alcohol drinks.

  • Hot cup of Earl Grey Tea with honey and milk in the morning, soothes rough edges and rehydrates.

  • Hot shower immediately followed by cold shower and repeat, 30 seconds at a time repeat at least 6 times; eases tension from shoulders, head, and neck and firms skin. Rinse cold to wake you up, tighten pores, and tone the skin.

  Homework 1. Make sure you are not allergic to any of the food or remedies in this chapter before trying them.

  2. Clean out your makeup and cosmetics bag and throw out anything gaudy or not natural beauty enhancing.

  3. Follow all the tips in this chapter every day, keep a diary and take photos to track your progress.

  4. Change out or alter any ingredients or procedures as needed.

  5. Create a daily routine for your beauty. Shower and bath time are great times to do all your cleansing, teeth cleaning and flossing, exfoliating, plain water douche, and if you need to shaving.

  ❦23 How Do You Stay Sane?

  Staying sane while working in the sex industry is kind of the whole purpose of this book. Put it this way, wealthy women, with all their jewels, imported cars, luxury mansions, and designer clothes, go insane if they are not happy or are stuck in a bad marriage. College educated women go nuts if they are stuck in a dead end job with no avenue of promotion. But these women are accepted in society and they can talk about their woes with their family, church, boyfriend, husband and friends, to vent their feelings and get perspective. Sex work is one of the hardest jobs on the sanity because you are brought up to believe it is morally wrong, your clients think you are beneath them, and you can't talk to anybody about it outside of the industry to vent your feelings and get perspective. You are basically alone on a tiny island and your only way off the island is to set goals and work towards them, like a little boat that you have to row across a great big ocean to get back to the mainland. It is vital that you have somebody to talk too to survive and do well in this game
, but you can't tell your family, boyfriend, friends, quilting circle or husband, because they've also been brought up to believe that prostitution is morally wrong. Even if they say it's OK, it really isn't and it really does make them feel uncomfortable or weirded out, and no matter what they say or what kind of smile is on their face, your relationship is forever changed, and possibly permanently or a little bit damaged. So your only choices for a shoulder to cry on and to get advice are sister and brother sew workers, management, social workers, or therapists. Even as a former sex worker myself, when a girlfriend confides to me she's an escort or stripper I automatically feel differently about her, not in a bad way, but not in a good way either. It's a total betrayal and it hurts me that I'm this way, but is what I'm programmed to feel. It's the same for most of the population and you either have to accept it and work around it, or else risk consequences for the rest of your life. It is OK for women to have secrets; men have had their secrets for millennia. Work to reach your goals get out of the industry, then you can put it in a box in a cupboard in the back of your mind and forget about it or deal with it in therapy. If you are young in your teens or twenties you may think I'm tripping, but when you reach your late twenties or early thirties (the new twenties) it hits you like a ton of bricks falling off a Mac truck at high speed. Sometimes it starts earlier, sometimes later. You beat yourself up for ruining you reputation and future, or go into denial and sometimes a spiraling decline, such as heavy drugs and alcohol, or promiscuous sex for free, or giving or shopping away all your money. Several times I've walked away from everything I've earned so I could feel free of the taint of prostitution money. Sometimes I've changed towns and I've changed countries to start again from scratch several times. It gets very expensive when you do it more than once. Hence why I put myself through college twice and have lived in several different countries and living on an artist's income. The good news for today's working girl is that we have the Internet and recent media coverage of sex scandals with high-end call girls. The market for high-end companions has started to grow as fashion item for men with money. No illusions, it doesn't make the men think any better of prostitutes, you are still and will always be paid or free entertainment, no matter how many expensive presents and adoration they shower on you. The extra time and budget for self-pampering does go a long way to make up for it in the short run. Whether you get your full potential worth or not is up to you. The benefits of being a high-end companion as opposed to brothels, agencies, half and an hour rate are obvious - more pay and less men to bang, healthier, more discretion, and higher ratio of clients you'd like to date in the straight world. This means more enjoyable work sessions, less stress over bills, less men treating you like a tramp or messing with your head, more money to pay for therapy and medical insurance, more time to pamper yourself and to de-stress. All these things really do help save or at least sooth your sanity. My father once told me "What ever you do, make it an art form". The business of a high-end companion is to be an artisan of social interaction and personal entertainment. By putting in the effort to be a lady and artisan companion, you can charge a higher price for your time and skill and get some fulfillment out of your work. By seeing less clients and keeping your focus on the art of being a companion and not how ugly the guy is you have to bonk, your head is in a different and more pleasant space and you see and treat your client as more of a generous friend with benefits; rather than a Jon to get a way from as fast as you can. This automatically makes a huge difference to your headspace and quality of your companionship that your client receives. Instead of checking your watch every five minutes and one hour seeming like five hours - you relax, be in the moment, and enjoy your work.