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  Homework 1. Make a list of what makes you individual and work on enhancing those points in your look and manner and advertising copy.

  2. Make a spreadsheet and track responses and clients from all individual directories and magazines that you advertise in. Include if clients are rude or big tippers and any other notable details.

  3. Make a detailed plan of what you want to do after you reach your goals and leave the sex industry behind you, plan how will you make the transition.

  4. Buy a business diary and schedule out your days, weeks, and months, multitask your errands and outings wherever possible, see where you need to keep day life away from night life and adjust your schedule accordingly.

  ❦21 How Do You Stay Safe?

  It is essential to be aware of potential “on the job” dangers and how to avoid, deter, or handle them expertly when necessary. As an escort or companion there are several safety procedures to follow that will help keep you safe. Do not take things for granted in any situation. No matter how well dressed or how gallant the other person looks or seems or talks, or no matter how street savvy you think you are you really don't know. The best preventative, defense, and cure with anything in life are to be prepared, educated, and aware of your situation at all times. In this chapter we will cover strategies for preventing, dealing with, and defusing difficult situations. Some of the info are tips from scattered free resource sites for escorts that I agree with and rewritten or edited to be more succinct, and some tips are from my own experiences. Please note that as I'm writing this I'm remembering my own experiences and seeing the need to read all of this book thoroughly and at least twice before considering or start out in the escort industry or online dating. The nature of companionship is multifaceted and everything is interconnected, there are many things in other chapters that can affect the items in this chapter one way or the other.

  Safety for Escorts and Dating 101.2 • First time meetings should be in a public place, so you can see him first and walk away if the client makes you uncomfortable or is not as he described himself. Trust your intuition and keep your cell phone and keys or roll of coins handy.

  • Once you confirm to meet a client, inform a friend or associate (Buddy) of your location, schedule and client's name. Always notify your Buddy or assistant of any changes immediately.

  • Where appropriate employ a driver so you will have someone near by if there is a problem.

  • Inform your client that there is a driver waiting outside for you, even if you don't have a driver.

  • Consider hiring a Personal Assistant (PA), to be your buddy and emergency contact to keep things discreet and ensure your safety; also to answer phones and 1st screen and if in house greet at the door and 2nd screen clients.

  • Try to network with other working girls and exchange info on bad clients and time wasters to help prevent trouble and to save time. Collective knowledge can make everyone safer and more money.

  • Clearly explain what you offer, companionship, how long it will last, and how much it will cost in your ad or email without being sexual or mentioning sex. When you meet with your client in person you can be more specific.

  • When visiting a client's residence for the first time, take a tour of the block before you enter and a whole house when you enter to check for other people, signs of danger, as well as exits for escape just in case.

  • Never accept a drink that is already been opened or you have not seen being made, in case it has been spiked with drugs or worse.

  • It's OK to say ‘NO’ to anything you are not comfortable with; if you feel afraid or creeped out, or the guy makes you feel disgusted or controlled or tries to get inside your head, then you are not comfortable and your senses are telling you to make polite excuses and leave. If you are not comfortable you cannot be a good companion, nor can you relax and be good in bed.

  • Learn martial arts and self-defense. Even if you never have to defend yourself practicing martial arts and knowing you are able to defend yourself is very self-empowering for a woman. Your body is healthier, your posture better, you have more self-confidence and energy, and you have better self-control and natural poise. The other bonus is that practicing martial arts helps create an energy field or awareness around you so you don't attract or walk into trouble.

  • Don’t visit clients who do not have a telephone connected or who use a mobile phone to book the service. (This rule may be out of date in some locations but current in others; do your own local research.)

  • Carry a mobile phone with you into the job, and while in front of the client to phone your Buddy or agency where you are and what time you will be finished. When you are finished and outside the door phone again and let your Buddy or agency know where you are heading next and what time you should be there. (Hence the need for a personal assistant or driver.)

  • If meeting a client at a private residence, drive by the house first to check for signs that might suggest trouble. For example, if there are several cars in the drive, or loud music, more than one person in or around the house or front door of the apartment. If you feel something is wrong phone client on your cell phone or mobile to discuss your concerns or to cancel the booking.

  • Don’t take cash or ID with you to a job; leave it with your buddy, driver, or agency so it is safe with somebody who can phone for help.

  • Assert yourself subtly in the first 5 to 10 minutes of meeting the client. From the moment you are alone with the client it’s important to take control and be in control of the situation but not obviously. Be polite and friendly – it’s often the best way to gain control – even when the client is behaving badly - good manners helps deflect bad manners.

  • Explain to the client that you always use condoms for oral, vaginal and anal sex, and when using sex toys.

  • Ask for payment BEFORE you provide the service.

  • When the client pays at the beginning of your appointment, it should be left on the counter in an envelope or gift or gift bag. Make an excuse to go to the bathroom to count it in private then give the money to your driver or put it in a safe place. For example, in an inner zipped pocket or some other safe place away from wandering hands. Be aware of where your money and phone are at all times.

  • At the end of the job, when you are in the bathroom having a shower, count your cash and credit slips again to make sure they are all there. Do not count cash or credit slips in front of the client.

  • Do Not accept checks, it is too easy and too often that they bounce or can be cancelled.

  • Be tactful – especially if the situation is becoming nasty. Keep your cool and be honest – don’t buy into the client’s head-trip and always be polite and calm to help to diffuse the situation.

  • If you drive yourself, park your car so only the back can be seen from the house (for example behind a tree or some bushes) and leave the car radio on if possible (this will suggest to the client that someone is waiting for you if he checks up).

  • If he attacks you can use pens, whistles, keys and breath sprays as weapons, and may allow you the opportunity to get away.

  • Don’t carry knives or guns with you and don’t threaten the client. These can be used against you or make the client’s craziness escalate and more dangerous and unpredictable!

  • Place your belongings near the door or exit so you can grab them if you need to get away quickly.

  • NO alcohol or drugs before sessions with clients. Substances affect your judgment of a situation and your ability to defend yourself or talk down or around a disgruntled client. Two glasses of organic red wine at the end of your shift is healthy and will help you unwind, but not more than two. If you need substances to do this job you shouldn’t be doing this job.

  • If something happens and you are feeling even a little unnerved, then immediately clock out; go home have a hot bath and go to bed and have your buddy check in on you. You cannot be a good companion when you are rattled. In any traumatic emotions, or unnervi
ng situation your head, and/or body may be in shock and

  warm rest is the best medicine and preventative for long term mental or emotional, and sometimes very physical damage. To not go home, hot bath, and warm cozy bed could result in long term PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) without you knowing it.

  • Don't dress or act like a hooker and people will be less likely to treat you like trash or call security. See the chapter What Do You Wear? - For tips on how to not look like a prostitute.

  How To Avoid Prosecution 101.2 Following tips from HowToBeaMaleEscort.com, but the procedures are the same for women. Special thanks to Brandon, Las Vegas male escort, who wrote this sage practical advice on to save your ass from prosecution, no pun intended... well maybe a little pun;-)

  "Have you ever heard the term: “If you’re a Cop you have to tell me.” Well that is bullshit. Cops are able to say or do almost anything to get you to agree to have sex for money so long as they have a court order to perform a sting. The most important thing I want you to remember is that you have to agree to have sex for money in order to be found guilty. Without a recording of you agreeing to have sex for money it is almost guaranteed that the charges against you will be dropped. You may still get arrested, but if you never agreed to have sex for money then the Police cannot charge you with “Prostitution.” I haven’t been arrested, yet, but have been coached on what to do and how to talk to potential clients on the phone or in their hotel room in order to dodge the agreeing to have sex for money questions. I know for a fact that my cautionary position on answering direct questions has kept me out of jail because other escorts were contacted by the same people and were not so lucky.

  If the Question is Figurative, answer it. If the Question is Direct, say nothing. If you get a phone call and the potential client asks: “Do you like to kiss?” “Are you into rimming?” “Do you like oral?” -etc… Answer those questions truthfully. Those questions are figurative, meaning they are general questions pertaining to no one but you. In a courtroom, answers to those questions would not be considered evidence against you because those answers describe your own personal preferences. If you get a phone call and the potential client asks: “Can we kiss?” “Would you let me rim you?” “I really like a good blow-job, are you able to give me one?” -etc… Don’t say a damn Thing! The instant you answer that question (yes or no) you are putting yourself in jeopardy of prosecution because if those questions are immediately followed by: “And your rate is $250?” You just broke the law and can be arrested the instant you arrive. Remember, questions about your interests (figurative) are okay to answer. Questions about what you will perform on or to the client (direct) are never okay to answer. Ducking a direct question by answering figuratively or with “No” is not good either. If they ask: “Can we kiss?” and you answer: “I like to kiss.” Legally you just told the client you will kiss him without saying you would. If the client asks: “Can I rim you?” and you answer: “I like rimming.” Again, you just broke the law. If the client asks “Will I be able to get a Blow-Job?” and you answer with “No” then the potential client asks “And your rate is $250?” You just broke the law because even with the word “No” you are implying that sex is involved for $250. Escorts have been arrested because they said “No” to certain sexual acts, but agreed on a rate. Implying to have sex for money is just as admissible in court as agreeing to have sex for money. How I duck Direct Questions, but still give an answer. The best way I duck direct questions is whenever a potential client asks them I immediately refer that client to the listing they found me on. If they Ask: “I’m looking for a little oral.” I ask them back: “Where did you see me listed?” They answer: “I saw you on Rentboy?” Then I say: “All my services and rates are listed there.” That answers their question without me agreeing to perform any sexual act on them. If they ask another direct question, I answer back the same way. If they ask one more direct question, I terminate the phone call. I may have missed out on a million dollars, but at least I won’t be going to jail that night. Getting Paid for your Time Only If a potential client calls and asks: “What do I get for $250?” You should always answer: “Well, $250 is for an hour of my time and whatever we decide to do during that time is between two consenting adults.” If they are not ‘boneheads’ then they should get the point, but if they follow that up with direct questions or questions like: “I’m looking for a little oral,” immediately refer them to the listing they found you on. 9 times out of 10 when you answer with “My rate is for time only,” the potential client understands. If they don’t understand and keep pushing for an answer, hang up, because even if they are not a Cop, they’re still a dumb-ass. Dumbass clients Suck! I work for Donations Don’t be stupid. If you are not a registered 501c3 non-profit group, you don’t take donations. If you answered a potential client by saying that you take or work for donations, you might as well tell that potential client that you’ll have sex for money. That is admissible in court. The idea of donations should be removed from your thought process right now. If you think you’re with a Cop, but not sure, get them to do something that a Judge would not like to see a Cop doing. “I was working out my ass today. Why don’t you smack it for me.” “Help me take off my shirt.” “Help me unbutton my pants.” “Rub my cock because it helps me get hard.” If you don’t physically force the client, but they perform a sexually explicit act that you asked them to do, whatever act they performed is something that a judge is not going to like to see. To help coerce them into doing it, do the act to yourself as well. I ask clients to smack my ass while I am giving my ass a smack. I ask clients to rub my cock while I am rubbing my cock. 90% of Police Sting Operations are performed with the use of hidden cameras. If you are unsure about a client, act as if you’re being taped and use it to your advantage. A seasoned Police Officer will know better and won’t touch you, but continue to try to negotiate sex for money. That’s when you know it’s time to leave. If they do perform a sexually explicit act to you, then answer whatever question you want because if the client is a cop, you can claim ‘Sexual Assault’ or ‘Gross Sexual Imposition’. Bye Bye Prostitution Charges! * If you gave them permission, why is it Sexual Assault? There are many ways to argue this and you may still be arrested even though the Police Officer touched you sexually. However, the primary argument for Sexual Assault would be that the Police Officer acted in an “Immoral Manner.” If there was a sting operation to bust crack users and the police officer decided to smoke crack too, how would that look to a judge? If you fight your charges along that line, then there will be a favorable outcome."

  Homework 1. Make a map of known "no go" neighborhoods, bars, and hotels in your city.

  2. Update your insurance and medical policies.

  3. Write down a list of things that make you uncomfortable and what you won't do.

  4. Write down a plan of how you will screen and meet clients, hide cash, and get home safely.

  5. Write down a plan for you and your Buddy and driver for if there is an emergency and who to contact.

  6. Practice how you answer questions so that you don't get busted.

  7. Study the chapter "What Do You Wear".

  ❧22 How Do You Stay Beautiful?

  The more natural your beauty, diet, relaxation, and fitness regime the longer you will stay looking young naturally. Obvious Botox and fake boobs do not attract high-end respectable anybody, because reminds them of strippers and porn stars for whom they usually feel a large level of disrespect and disdain, due to their upbringing and what their mothers and sisters told them. Genuine VIP companions must be natural, un-flashy, un-tacky, and un-jaded. No fake nails, no Juicy Couture, no weaves, no stripper heals or micro-mini skirts, no grills, not tattoos, no nose rings or lip spikes, no fake bling, no tits hanging out, no obvious plastic surgery, no plumber's crack or muffin tops, no bottle blonds or heavy dyes or makeup. Girl next door may sound cliche, but it's what men have been brought up to trust and pay more for. At least in the 21st century you ca
n be a slightly exotic and sexy girl next door. If you want somebody to trust you, you have to look like you are honest, naturally attractive and healthy, which starts with natural beauty and fashion style in your photos and when you meet. If you look like a crack whore stripper sticking your g-string ass or crotch at the camera, a wealthy man is not going to get in contact, because to him and to any nice man who respects a woman you look drug fucked, mentally ill, and possibly diseased. It’s the truth face it. Nice girls get the big bucks and nice clients.

  The Points Of Beauty

  Teeth The first thing that a client will notice and take note of is your smile. White teeth and fresh breath to the client makes you look clean and kissable, which is what they want. Your teeth are like a shop's neon sign saying "Welcome". If your smile is bright and clean it's welcoming, if it's dark and chipped it's a little creepy. Your teeth don't have to be perfectly straight and even, but your teeth do need to be white and your breath fresh every time all the time. Use whitening toothpaste, dental floss, and mouthwash after every meal, before you go to bed and immediately before seeing a client. Your teeth are an investment into your health as well as your product, so the expense does great value multitasking. Get some dental insurance, or if you are on a limited budget go to a dental school for discount dentistry.