Wealthy Men for Money or Love Page 6

  ❦16 How Do You Entice?

  Attracting a man only gets him to the front gate. Enticing a man gets him sitting on the front porch drinking mint juleps and wanting to know more about you. The following skills make can make most people feel more comfortable having you around.

  Good Manners If you are seeking VIP status you must have British European manners and style. If you currently talk with your mouth full, lean in to the table to eat, cuss in public, talk when somebody else is talking, and the like then you have extra work to do. Start with reading books on etiquette and practicing in your everyday life. Take a basic course at a local etiquette or charm school and remember to ask them how to get in and out of a sports car in a mini skirt. The basic goal of having good manners is to make those around you feel comfortable in your presence without you looking like a doormat, and why theses skills are very important when dealing with clients or associates in manners and princesses and princes princesses and princes, not how much of daddy's money one can spend or how many labels one wears. Money doesn’t give you class or style.

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  Poise Poise is how you carry yourself physically and emotionally and just like manners, its aim is to make those around you feel comfortable in your presence. If you are at a party or a VIP area of a nightclub wanting to impress your date, then introduced to a woman who is wobbling on her heals and spilling her drink, it would make you feel uncomfortable and maybe a little embarrassed. The same with a client and his paid for girlfriend; he doesn't want her to make him feel embarrassed, even in the bedroom; men and high end madams are very sensitive to this kind of thing. It's not putting on airs and graces, it's maintaining self control and posture - not laughing or talking over people, not getting wasted, not slouching, not looking disinterested when somebody is talking to you, no cell phone or text in front of people, not inviting friends to gatecrash, and much more. Remember that you are an actress being paid to learn and play a part on a stage; it has nothing to do with what you feel inside. How to handle such a situation such as the wobbling woman? Answer: You think the woman is funny at first, but only show a small subtle smirk with raising of the eyebrow, then get somebody else to help her because good manners says this person is in distress and needs assistance to go home or to at least to lie down. You don't hail a cab or take her to the powder room yourself, unless she's the hostess of the party, else you run the very real risk of having drink or vomit or mascara tears spilled on you. The woman needs stronger arms and you have social duties to attend to, such as your client or making a connection with new people or old friends. But you do check later to see that the woman got home safely.

  Graceful Movement The ultimate test of a debutante’s graceful movement is to dance elegantly in 5-inch stiletto pumps, yes really, I had to do it as a teen. Practice by balancing a book on your head and walk up and down a in a straight line, one foot directly in font of the other with your eyes focused on the horizon or a spot on the wall. Work your way up to dancing and focusing on a partner, it is hard at first but practice does it. The trick is to keep all your weight on the balls of you feet with leg and back muscles engaged and knees very slightly bent and unlocked, like a dancer or horse rider, or martial artist. This posture improves balance and prevents injury from wearing high heel shoes for long period. If you have some cash get dancing and martial arts lessons, to improve co-ordination and physical timing. The exercise also stimulates natural anti depressants in your system so you don't have to self medicate, and this keeps your body healthy and skin looking young naturally. Coordinated movement oils your brain so you can keep track of your business life and straight life and helps prevent ailments in old age. Dancing also keeps your body looking younger longer. I studied dance off and on for 19 years; when I was 36 I was told I had the body of a 36 year old; at 48 I’m told I’m still hot; and I can hold my own on any dance floor with any 20 something year old. Graceful movement is also great for avoiding tripping over stuff and has saved my shines and knees and embarrassment to many times to count.

  Emotional Control Screaming hissy fits are only for those who know you very well. Some clients like it, but only in appropriate situations, such as in the bedroom so you can have make up sex afterwards. In public you do not give any sign of how you are feeling to anyone, you are always calm, content, and gracious. Practice this in your everyday life and note how less stressed you are and eventually how much more brain power you have to think with. To increase that power and decrease your minutes a day sitting in distractions, sit cross legged with back straight and arms relaxed and simply breathe. Breathe in through your nose into your belly and out through your mouth, relaxing and straightening your spine as you go. Let your thoughts come and go with your breath. Do this 10 minutes a day or for a few minutes whenever you feel overwhelmed, it's better than Valium and no doctor visits. Your clients will also like the calmness in your energy and feel more trust towards you.

  stress levels, spend 10 a quiet place without

  Homework 1. Practice matter breaths and count to 20 silently if you have to.

  2. Get some books on etiquette and use your everyday life and situations to practice.

  3. Make yourself an elegant dinner and practice the place settings and eating with your back straight and still.

  4. Get out your highest stilettos and walk on the balls of your feet everywhere with your back straight and head level; do not put any weight on your heals, else you may cause damage. staying calm and composed no what happens - take several deep

  ❦17 How Do You Entertain?

  Once a man knows what he needs to know about you to feel safe and protective he then wants you to entertain and distract him from his everyday life. Sorry to burst any bubbles, but when he's paying big bucks for your time it's that simple. Sometimes he wants to do all the talking and entertaining, sometimes he wants to vent his life's woes to an understanding listener, and sometimes you are the entertainment or expected to make it happen. Unlike the movies or escort review sites, entertaining as a high-end companion is not all about taking your clothes off in a sexy way or your sexual gymnastics. Be sensitive to his mood and needs at all times and open to what he wants, providing it is within your comfort zone. While working with in his parameters you create an immersive fantasy environment that is fun and sensual and takes his mind off his everyday life. You also both enjoy each other’s company.

  Conversation Being a good two-way conversationalist and communicator is the mainstay of a good companion in any occupation and dealing with any type of person. You do not hog the conversation, you let the other person speak and you respond. You do not talk about yourself; you talk about life, the universe, the news or current affairs, music; anything but yourself. You do not put the other person's views down nor treat them with contempt; you agree to disagree. Again the aim is to make the other person feel comfortable and safe to hangout with you; this is their "me" time not yours. Do some research into what your client or date likes and dislikes and their hobbies and interests. Put some questions in their booking form to get the info from them.

  Outings • Suggest a picnic on the beach, theater, cinema, wine country tour, a museum, ball game, rock concert, opera, circus, or festival.

  • Often a man simply needs distraction and to stretch his legs, not sex.

  • If you want to get naughty you can take a sleeping bag, or suggest he take you to an upmarket swinger or fetish party or have a girlfriend over for the night.

  • If you want to get natural take him swimming or to a yoga class; wear your designer or custom active wear and keep him behind you so he can watch your hips and buttocks move and stretch in body hugging clothes.

  • A day or weekend at the spa with facials, massage, sauna, and swim is of course very relaxing, somewhere he hasn't been before could be a bonus.

  • Learn a few massage techniques for his particular knots, so he sees you investing in
his care and nurturing.

  • Use your imagination and do your homework to make it easy for him to go on outings, so all he has to do is swipe his credit card discretely or pay cash.

  Parlor Games Strip poker, strip scrabble, strip to any game; the aim is to keep the atmosphere fun and light. You can fit a couple of masks into your purse and play role playing games, such as animals crawling or swimming around, over, and under the furniture in his hotel room.

  Cosplay If he likes video games and anime or role acting games look up where to buy costumes of his favorite characters so he can get them for you both for Cosplay games. You are his damsel and partner in crime and fantasy. The more unique, creative and a playful escape you can be the more he will see you again and again.

  Fashion Show Get him to take you shopping and you show of your body to him in all sorts of underwear, swim wear, rear-end enhancing jeans, sexy styling shoes and boots, and made couture. Then get him to try on clothes that he likes and do a fashion show for you. Then when you get home do another fashion show of all the sexy items he bought for you and let nature and desire run their course. When he wakes up, have a sweet breakfast such as strawberry crepes or a light dinner ready, depending on time of day. This would be an example of creating a fully immersive fantasy show with a happy ending, which is very important to be a true actress and entertainer.

  Dance With Him Another good reason for dance lessons and less need for the gym. Be it a silly dance or romantic dance or a frantic punk jumping dance it releases endorphins to shake of the doldrums and change a person's head space in a few minutes; with or without music. Make a couple of your outings going to tango or hip hop dance classes, or have a tango master come to his retreat to teach you both. Dance is the motion of love and sensuality and is it's own journey.

  Massage Most men love a good neck or back rub. If you can get a client to relax and feel soothed fast, they will think about seeing you again. Practice finding knots and kneading them out. Read a few books and practice on friends and get their feedback. Learn about acupressure points and how to use them. Practice massaging feet and hands first; it’s the fastest way to take off the rough edges of his tension levels. Remember to breathe and use the white light meditation (in chapter How Do You Stay Sane) during all massages to protect your mental energy. For painful headaches squeeze the fleshy part between the thumb and index finger for 20 seconds, repeat until the headache eases; you can practice this on your self.

  Food Can you cook? It doesn't matter if you can't, get him to take you both to cooking lessons or have a chef come to his retreat. Talk about food and what types of restaurants he may not have tried yet. If either of you can cook get both of you down to the farmers market to pick up organic fare, stop off for some wine and cheese and head back for a home cooked candle lit dinner for two, or an impromptu picnic at the nearest park or scenic lookout. Or have your girlfriend over to be a naked human table for you both to dine from.

  Read the Newspaper When all conversation fails, an item you remembered from the newspaper is a good fall back on and shows you are engaged (aware of and interact with) and have an opinion of the real life. Get into the habit of reading the newspaper front to back every day; you never know which item will interest him, could be sports one day, and a business news item the next, an environmental item the next, or his favorite band is playing downtown. Get him out for morning or mid afternoon coffee and newspapers and discussion of news items at an interesting cafe, or on the deck or terrace, or by a nice window. Carrying a newspaper can also be a subtle way to blend into the crowd in a hotel lobby.

  Draw Each Other’s Picture Handwriting is actually drawing. You if you can write words with a pen or pencil you can draw. You don't have to get the drawing to be a perfect likeness, or even close. The object to the exercise is fun. Get him to draw a picture of you while you are drawing him, it can be a great laugh together.

  Role Play It doesn't have to be Tarzan and Jane or a fake rape. Bring out your inner 5 year old and play pretend. To find new ideas watch movies together and act out your favorite scenes, improvise your props and costumes from what you find at his place.

  Body Painting Get some edible body paint and get him to paint you then lick it off, or do it to him, or better still do it to each other. So long as your body is clean and smells fresh, he will love it.

  Surprise Him Do something different every time you see him, it doesn't have to be dramatic. Dress in a different style, different colored or styled underwear, wear your hair differently, and bring a new toy or form of entertainment.

  Theme Your Date Make each date a different theme, starting with your clothing, underwear and makeup, and create scenarios to act out with him. Bring props if they are not too big. If you are working in-house, keep a stash of props and accessories for different themes to decorate your workspace.

  Be Or Act Like You Are Into Him He's seeking a fantasy romance and on many levels so are you. The first three or four meetings will probably seem awkward while you are getting to know each other, so you are going have to pull out your Oscar winning acting talents and fake it. Laugh at his jokes, keep a happy light in your eyes when he sees you, you look into his eyes when he talks to you and really listen to him. Be interested in everything he says and do homework on his likes, so you can understand what he is talking about and add to the conversation. A very campy but great example of how to fake it is in a vintage Swedish movie called Dagmar's Hot Pants. It's campy and funny, about a couple of Swedish prostitutes, but very good starter examples of how to fake being into a client. The Happy Hooker has more good examples. Smile and the world smiles with you!

  Always Have Style Don't forget you are being paid to be eye candy as well as a companion. If you don't have the looks and body of a super model and the wardrobe to adorn it, you can create other ways to keep your client's eye entertained in a detail of your clothing, shoes, belt buckle, or jewelry. You could turn up for each meeting dressed in a different vintage designer, complete with shoes a unique style. Good quality natural fabrics and materials are best, high end men notice quality more than labels. Everything must be clean, un-scuffed, and like new. Learn how to safely store, clean, and touch up your clothing and accessories to keep them new. Quality clothes and accessories can also be resold online, to change your wardrobe more often. In London I would shop at designer consignment stores for celebrity castoffs, my working girl outfit was 2-piece 80’s wool suit once owned and worn by Britt Ekland that I retailored. I’d also did a lot of clothes shopping in Paris in the 11th arrondissement for designer overstock that still featured London boutiques for a tenth of the price. Men do love designer quality stylish clothes and accessories, but men don’t care how much you pay for them. If you bought a no label dress at thrift store for $30 and your date asks who designed it say you had the dress custom made and it cost you $650. Check out vintage stores and clothes for cheap expensive looking chic and original. Have used clothes dry-cleaned for odor and make sure everything is mended and neat hems and cuffs.

  Homework 1. Read the newspaper everyday and make notes of interesting news items.

  2. Practice your conversation skills at a coffee shop or lunchtime at your day job.

  3. Relearn how to play games; e.g. poker, backgammon, scrabble etc.

  4. Get Italian Vogue and search latest season's runway show videos online.

  5. Read a whole book every week or two that has at least some historical fact.

  ❦18 How Do You Screen Dates?

  Screening new clients saves you time and money and keeps you safe and instills respect from your clients from the start. The fastest way to learn how to screen clients is to work a couple of weeks grave yard shift as an escort agency receptionist, but that only screens at the first level. As a working girl the screening is in several parts. Either way you still have you use and trust your own senses and practice common sense.

  Three Parts to Screening New Clients

  #1 The First Contact

  The
innitial phone and email to set up a meeting. • You are looking for a person who sincerely wants to pay you for your company and will meet you in a safe neighborhood or a 5 star hotel.

  • What you don't want is a person who wastes a lot of emails and phone time to just talk to you.

  • Keep communications with untried clients short and to the point without seeming rude or business hungry.

  • Brothel clients mostly walk in off the street with minimal sizing up by staff.

  • Per-hour companions have only a few emails or phone calls to check a new client out before meeting him for a date.

  • Very high end or VIP companions ask for real names, phone numbers, references, and addresses and do background checks, but they see fewer clients for longer periods and charge a higher minimums.

  • Sugar babies seem to rely on a normal dating situation, but I don't recommend this approach without screening and background checking a potential sugar daddy first to make sure.

  Signs of trouble makers and time wasters: • Sounds like there's a party in the background; parties can turn into gangbangs.

  • Sounds drunk or wasted - you don't know what he's on or off or what it will make him do.

  • Sends pictures of his genitals or sexual text; emotional age of 15 and creepy.

  • Tries to bargain down your price; sexist control freak and creepy.

  • Talks dirty or vulgar on the phone or in emails; creepy sexist freak.

  • Keeps asking for more details; cheap thrills.

  • Keeps asking to see your face if your face is not shown in adds; creepy freak.

  • Emails don't have opening or closing greeting such as "Hi" or "See you later" rude.

  • Emails written all in short hand text or slang or street speak - flaky or a 15 year old.

  • Email or voice with only one line, example "Can you see me today." emotionally stunted.