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  you realizing it. I'm not going to education and already in the full makeover and new persona. Do the whole workshop before you start your new high-end you, as it will give you lots of useful insight into what kind of make over and persona you will want to create. The info and tips in this book are my personal observations and practical knowledge from working as a long time freelancer in many situations in several different countries, and studied something of human nature and culture along the way. If this book helps just one woman to improve her circumstance, then it has have achieved a higher purpose.

  Homework 1. Buy a big diary dedicated to this workshop and your escort work, to take notes, record your experiences and thoughts, and make comparisons.

  2. Set a schedule of your workshop time; reserve an hour or two a day for study and homework. Don't try to rush your studies; else you might miss something important that affects your safety or income.

  3. Check out escort sites and profiles of individual workers and make notes on what you like and don't like about them, their photos, web site, and advertising copy.

  ❦11 Why This and Why You?

  The most important question of your life is why are you doing something. And especially to ask yourself why are you getting into prostitution. Why? Is it to spite somebody or yourself? Is it to pay off a bill or buy a new car or for college tuition? Is it to send your kid to a better school? Is it to escape your boring life or town? Is it to help your boyfriend who won't get a job? Is it to pay medical bills? First get perfectly clear on why you want to do this then research to find out if there is another way. Such as your boyfriend can pay his own bills; you can kick him out or you move out and worry about your own bills. Or there are grants and scholarships for impoverished children available at many private schools, do some homework of your own. If you are doing this for spite or self-loathing or to buy drugs, then you need therapy. Being a prostitute may be a good thing for society, but until society owns up to that and treats sex workers with respect then being a prostitute is not mentally or emotionally good for the prostitute. You can't tell anyone except your therapists, even in the 21st century. It is not good for the soul to have the person you love or live with spit in your face, or start treating you like a charity project. Even people you thought were close friends can suddenly look at you in a different way and not invite you to dinner parties. Being a sex worker is still one of the ultimate taboos for women in the real world, no matter how many are celebrities on TV. The idiots that try to romanticize the industry don't really know what they are talking about or are not being truthful with them selves. Prostitution is a get in and get out as fast as you can industry, it is not a long-term career move, else you will need heavy drugs or drinking to get through it. The less people that know about you being a sex work and the less people you work with the easier it is to leave it in the past where it belongs when you are ready to leave it. That and therapy are the only true chances of emotional survival. Only millionaire porn stars and celebrities seeking a spot light can get away with sex in public; they have a whole lot of money or their careers riding on it. For the rest of us, sex work or even a saucy photo on a social networking site can seriously mess up our present and futures. Cases in point: Miss America and anybody from the US military whose naked picture ended up on the Internet. Women by nature and physical shape receive energy through their vagina. Women by nature are brought up with romantic notions of love and marriage. When you mix money with sex you mix up the messages from love and marriage to love-money-sex. This can make you neurotic or needy in normal life without you realizing it, and takes a lot of effort to reprogram your brain back to normal. By setting a limited time and goals to get in and out of sex work the less mixed message residue it leaves. And that means setting clear reachable goals and treating sex work as a stepping stone to your goals, the same as going to college for 3 or 4 years then moving onto a career. Getting out of high paid sex work can be difficult because the money, gifts, pampering and wealthy lifestyle are hard to give up. Many women who get into prostitution do it for most of their working life, when they are too old or are sick of it they realize they don't know what else to do, or how to make the transition to full time straight work. It is the same dilemma now as it was in the time of royal courtesans we read about in history. Back then women had no options, there were no straight jobs or careers for women were not allowed to go to school, often were left alone, destitute, and most often died painful deaths from sexually transmitted diseases. In the 21st century we have antibiotics and penicillin and women can get gainful education and employment in any career or business they choose. In the 21st century you are very lucky. You have the Internet, so you don't need a pimp or madam to find you clients or a sponsor to protect you. Most STDs can be cured or at least managed by modern medicine. Women are publicly accepted by society in the workplace and school and even in the upper echelons of industry and politics. There are also great therapists with proven techniques for mental and emotional healing. A woman working in a brothel can educate and improve herself and her lifestyle and income by going independent and getting higher paying clients. And if something bad happens there are people and organizations to help. Get clear on why you want to be an escort and if it is truly your last resort, then work out a time line of when you want to get in and get out, and make sure it is within 3 or 4 years. Do not let sex work, its headtrip, or its culture overwhelm your life and make you lose sight of your goals and focus and long-term future. There is such thing as Karma in the sex industry and why you need integrity. If you fall into bad habits and bad company you attract bad people who can and will do bad things to you. This may be a surprise to the uninitiated but having integrity is the best thing in any kind of relationship, job, or business including the sex industry. Turning up on time, being honest in your advertising and photos, no stealing, no scamming, no talking ill of coworkers or friends, not getting involved in politics or gossip, not getting wasted, not taking your work home, and not taking your home to work. Following the rules of integrity self empowers you and when you are self empowered better situations come to you.

  Homework 1. Write a page of lists of pros and cons for doing sex work and not doing sex work.

  2. Write your long-term life and career goals down on paper and put it away with a prayer of thanks for safekeeping and inspiration.

  3. Write down a list of rules for yourself to keep your integrity.

  4. Keep a diary of your experiences and progress towards your goals and to help keep sex work in it's own mental box, safely away from the rest of your life and prying eyes.

  ❦12 Who Is Your Target?

  The most important thing you can do in business is identifying your client and their likes and dislikes. When you know whom your client is you begin to know how to refine and present your product so your client will keep buying it. But first you have to look at your product and be real with yourself. What kind of man likes what kind of woman and what kind of woman are you? Once you get clear on that you can refine your presentation and target your marketing. The following is a generalized breakdown of common types of clients and their likes and dislikes, it is very generalized and prices are circa 2011 but they will give you something to start with.

  • Joe grunt and your favorite barman - cheap or less- pretty in a bikini or lace underwear, any hair color, shut up and fuck.

  • Japanese Various prices - Pretty blonde, petite boyish body, giggles a lot, not much conversation, non-USA, some fetish.

  • English gentleman upper mid to upper price levels - tall leggy blonde in designer clothes, can hold half a conversation, good sense of humor, sometimes fetish or role play.

  • USA age 40 something average modern Gen X lower to mid price levels Petite Caucasian, Latina, or Asian, bubbly personality - GFE (Girl Friend Experience).

  • Euro or USA age 26 to 65 - self made wealthy professional – upper price levels Variety of shapes and styles, party girl, hot looker, and at the same time intelligent and kno
ws when to have a conversation and pour drinks and when to be quiet or leave the room. Partly GFE partly baby sitter, sometimes fetish or role-play, open to anything.

  • Scandinavian traveling businessman – mid price levels - anything pretty with a good body and naturally brunette.

  • 50 Year old plus – lower mid levels, unless very wealthy, sometimes erection issues - any woman over 40 who is patient and pretty, GFE, sometimes role-play.

  • African American and Arabic. I cannot comment from real experience, except for the Arabian prince who didn't want to wear a condom so I left.

  Once you know who your client is then you can find out what kind of women's clothes, hair, shoes he likes his companions to wear, and what kind conversation, food, and hobbies he likes to participate in, plus music, politics, men's wear, electronics etc. Open your diary and your laptop and start your homework. Where does your client usually work, how much does he make, where does he go for lunch during work days, is he religious, does he like animals, what kind of big screen TV, Windows or Mac, Facebook or Myspace, Eros or Redbook? Will he be approachable at a bar, or have to meet him online, or through a friend or an agency? Do you really need to spend $300 on a new hairstyle and $3,000 on a designer dress and shoes? Or can you do $50 for a root touch up and throw together something from a designer consignment store for less than $500. Remember that looks or boobs and intelligence alone do not count for everything when going for high paying clients. You may have the looks of a super model and street sense of a madam, but only a high school diploma, you still need elocution and etiquette lessons and upper class experience to make up for a lack of college education. You are being paid to create a fantasy, just like an actress, and just like an actress you play a part to your specific audience. It is taking on a character that you take off when the play has ended and you go home. So who your man is, is important because who he his and what he likes largely shapes the character that you play.

  Homework 1. Research online escort directors and make a list of the escorts that look most like you in body shape, size, skin coloring, and clothing to see which level you are currently at. Get a second or third opinion if you have to. Be ready for in case you don't like the answer; the truth can be tough but needed for you to be a successful businesswoman.

  2. Design your rate chart using the same rates as the girls currently most like you.

  3. Set a goal and time-line and write a plan to improve your look and product to the next level in 3 months.

  ❦13 What Is Your Plan?

  Now that you know why you are doing this, how long you are doing it for, and who is your client you can begin to create a business plan. Your vagina, your looks, and your companionship are how you will be making money, which makes them your business in an actual sense. The more planning for trouble the less trouble or trouble caused from trouble.

  Questions To Ask Your Self? • Will you work for an agency, a madam, a brothel or house, or go independent online? If you are a beginner I recommend a friendly established agency to get your feet wet. Never work with a pimp, on the street, or in a brothel, even if you have a girlfriend with you. If you are experienced then independent with connections to concierges and limo drivers etc.

  • Do you have a girlfriend to work with or a friend in the biz to talk to? You need to talk to somebody in the biz so you aren't dealing with head stuff on your own. It does get confusing and an experienced ear and advice makes all the difference, even if you don't work at the same level or organization.

  • Do you have a friend somebody can call in case of emergency? Plan for the worse and everything else is a bonus. You need somebody you can trust who will help you if you get into trouble. People don't survive on their own, it's what a tribe is for.

  • Do you have the number for a lawyer in case you get busted? There are non-profit lawyers in most cities, you can look them up online. Don't be afraid to ask questions and keep their number in your purse at all times.

  • Where will you advertise? Who are your clients and where do they look for paid companionship? Research the best directories and alternative publications to get exposure in. If you don't have a college degree VIP status is not worth the extra money so be realistic with yourself and who your clients are.

  • What kind of web site do you need? What do other working girls use, how can you make it look better or stand out? Check with DIY web site companies and see who has the best templates and is easiest to use.

  • What kind of clothes, shoes, and underwear? Who are your clients and what do they like? Modern hip girl next door and good quality classics are always safe. Then you can wear sexy Italian underwear underneath and some very shear stockings. A simple tasteful hair style and made up, new leather handbag, new leather stiletto pumps, and soft tasteful fine metal jewelry will finish the picture.

  • What kind of phone, laptop, and voice mail are most reliable in your local area? Your business needs to be able to be contacted and to contact people to make money, so everything must work 24/7 and have good tech support for if it fails.

  • What kind of photos and where to get them taken? If you are per-hour woman then glamour playboy style or if you are a per-day woman then fashion up-market softer lighting.

  • How will you keep the taxman out of your business? Register a business name for lifestyle or business coaching and you are the consultant or coach. From then many of your expenses, such as hair, make up, clothing, business cards, laptop, cell phone, office space, and travel expenses are deductibles, and you can take credit cards discretely.

  • How will you manage the money so you reach your goals? Get an accountant and work out a reasonable weekly budget that includes rent, food, utilities, spa time, hair, and clothes with enough left over to put in the bank or pay off your bills. Keep a daily diary of how much you spend and how much you earn and each week tally up. By simply keeping up this daily practice you will see a change in your spending habits and see your goals getting closer.