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  ❦7 Attracting and Dating

  You are not having much luck with dating, your dating skills are rusty, or maybe you feel a little bit behind the times in conversation, fashion, and dance steps. Or maybe you’ve made somebody cringe or walk out when you were only joking, or they dropped out of touch after seeing your living space… or maybe this book and subject simply intrigues you… You aren’t looking to get laid so much as you want somebody to go out with and talk to and share a dance or movie with. Maybe you are looking towards a long-term relationship or maybe you are a serial dater. Single’s events don’t do it for you and you don’t always know what or whom you are dealing with at nightclubs and bars. Don’t worry; men go through exactly the same thing. It’s like you wish you could get some real life tips and practice before you have to deal with the real thing, well that’s why you are reading this book Below are some basics on how to attract a guy online. This is not personal, it’s just what independent studies and personal experience have shown, as well as what my husband, former clients, and male friends tell me on occasion.

  • Nice photos with warm happy smiles and sparkle in your eyes, taken by somebody else, having dinner at a nice restaurant or well kept garden backgrounds or modern portraits are good. Selfphotos and unstylish backgrounds make some people think you don’t have friends, a life, or resources.

  • Men prefer women who make the effort to look nice – classy makeup, hair, clothes, nails, eyebrows, etc. Natural well groomed middle class girl next door. It’s partly tribal instinct and partly what their mothers nagged it into them. No baggy t-shirts, overly arty or complicated, or out of date clothes or spandex stripper wear. Always looking well polished also helps you in your career and gets you more respect where you need it; a favorite TV show of mine is What Not To Wear. Nice alternative but fashionable and comfortable clothes and accessories in Elle magazine.

  • Pets in photos are a red flag, even the guy who likes cats and parrots. Unfortunate conditioning makes men think of the local crazy spinster down the road with 15 cats, dogs, birds etc, who yelled at them as children. Keep pets out of your photos. I’m an animal lover myself, but it is what it is.

  • Guys instinctively like curves, not too thick not too thin - make the effort to loose the weight or get some hips or at least get a waist. The waist to hip ratio is encoded in human male DNA as a sign of fertility and into their psyche as the mother goddess; many studies have been published on the subject and at least one documentary. Hula hooping and creative dance is fun; it works, and is great for preventing and treating depression and other health problems.

  • It doesn't matter what your t-shirt says, baggy tshirts make women look fat and ugly and hopeless, you need to pull you finger out of your ear, put your t-shirt in a frame, and get style to get ahead or get a date. If you don't have it naturally, flick through fashion magazines and learn it.

  Types of Dates The following types of dates are set out in a sequence to get to know somebody gradually and build a comfortable relationship with each other.

  1st. Date: Lunch and window-shopping to see what you like and chat about life experiences and style and to see if you click.

  2nd. Date: Dinner and dancing tweak your rapport and appropriate manners to impress a picky date without seeming wimpy or fake.

  3rd. Date: Afternoon coffee and cake and more window-shopping to expand your style ideas, recap likes and dislikes, and hone conversation.

  4th. Date: Morning farmers market and cook brunch at your place so he can see how your style ideas fit into your living space and wardrobe. If you can’t cook get a friend and their date to teach the both of you on a double date.

  5th. Date: Morning and afternoon urban adventure excursion - bicycle picnic in the park or lunch at a museum or catch a festival or concert depending on weather and what’s on in town.

  6th. Date: Dinner and a theatrical play or dance performance to add to your cultural experience, show how good your manners and deportment art, and to expand topics of conversation.

  Homework 1. Practice the Basics and the Dates in this chapter.

  2. Get professional shots of head and shoulders, ¾ head and body, and full body and legs and feet shots done in modern and age and body shape appropriate clothes with professional hair and makeup. Fashion magazine styling and lighting. Close-ups with face and hair showing clearly in color for non-published shots and without face showing for published shots. No nudity, see-through, too tight, or gstrings. Tastefully hide or crop but don’t blur the face, blurring looks tacky. Tell the photographer it’s for a portfolio-application to fashion modeling school, and get a copy of every shot.

  ❦8 How to Multitask

  Keeping fit and running your business takes up a lot of time. You wish you had a few clones to help out. In this chapter are tips to help you multitask your fitness routine while running your house and errands and saving money. Multitasking is doing more than one thing at the same time. This will also help you learn how to multitask in your business. Multitasking can be making a single duty or product do multiple jobs. You can multitask house and yard work and errands as your fitness routine as well as save money. Get your kids involved so they keep up their fitness levels, keep productive, less TV and Video games, and were you can keep and eye on them. The following techniques also help clean up your own environment making it healthier for your family, which saves future health costs. The following is your homework.

  1. Ride a bicycle. Great for toning and strengthening your upper thighs, backside, back of thighs, and calves. If you live within 5 miles you can save money on vehicle maintenance, fuel, parking time, traffic jams, gym memberships, and save the air and road safety at the same time. Cycling is also a great outing for all ages and for residents to keep tabs on their neighborhoods. Get pannier baskets for your family’s bikes and go shopping and picnics together, or you can buy lightweight luggage and child trailers for bicycles to tow it yourself.

  2. Use a push mower and rake for the lawn. A powerful all over workout that improves cardio and strength and noticeably tones your upper body, legs, and arms in one or two sessions. Using a push mower can be done by kids age 10 and rake by kids 4 and up and up. Plus it’s quieter and doesn’t require fuel or electricity, so there’s no wasting time or money traveling to and from the gas station or pumping up your electricity bill. And because small motors require 2-stroke fuel, which contains extra lead, not using them means less pollution around and in your house. You only need to breath in minuscule trace amounts of lead to have problems such as memory loss, learning difficulties, and tiredness in adults as well as children.

  3. House cleaning aerobics. Making beds, and laundry requires squats, stretches, and twists, when you do them fast and gracefully it become an all over workout that works. Research exercises and stretches and incorporate them into your daily work routine. Put on some dance music and do your chores with rhythm and you will be fit and your work finished in record time. Remember physical exercise is also a powerful anti-depressant, which can make a noticeable difference in your mood in just one session. For kids, cleaning up their own mess unclutters their minds for better learning abilities, because it trains them to put things away and remember where they are. House and yard chores are also vital life skills.

  4. Wash the car at home. Washing your vehicle, boat, RV, bicycles, house siding, awnings at home saves money, travel time, and water. It requires coordination, stretches, poses, and squats. Harmful chemicals from cleaning products also leach into your skin and the air and all over your toys, so use eco friendly products, such as simple eco dishwashing soap. Discipline yourself to use less water and direct the excess water and drainage onto the garden or lawn instead of down a sewer pipe. The soapy water aphids and acts as a wetting agent, so the soil stays moist longer. For upholstery use a strong vacuum and steam cleaner, no need for chemicals or detergents.

  strength, agility,

  twists, yoga like 5. Grow your own organic food. Great exercise and saves a
bunch of money. The food tastes better lasts longer in the fridge and is much healthier locally grown food helps prevents allergies and other ills because it contains local enzymes and minerals. Once you have your food garden planted, the daily time it takes to weed it is less time than going shopping for groceries. If your veggie garden is near your kitchen you can harvest only what you need for each meal, gourmet straight from the garden to the table. Weeding and hoeing work the upper body, back, knees, and lots of squats. Remember to use a cushion to protect your knees and gloves to keep your hands nice, and lots of sunscreen.

  6. Cook your own whole food. Cooking uses the same physical skills as Tai Chi, martial arts, and dance: coordination, physical balance, twists, steps, and balancing objects. Reading and following a new recipe oils the brain to help you think. Cooking your own homegrown veggies saves a lot of money and your family will prefer it to almost anything else. Locally grown whole food helps prevent and treat cancer and other serious illnesses. An easy base for many inexpensive meals is pasta dough. It can make ravioli, pizza, fettuccine, lasagna, dumplings, noodle soup, and many Asian dishes from several continents. The recipe for pasta and pizza dough is simple: 3 eggs to two cups of sifted flower, a teaspoon of olive oil, and season to taste. Knead the dough until it is firm and springs back to the touch then sit covered for 20 minutes rolling the before rolling. Kneading and

  dough is a power upper arm, shoulder and abs workout with immediate results. The dough can be frozen in 5 serving size wads and thaws fairly quickly.

  You may want or need to spend more time on some tasks and less time on others, so some schedule rearranging and tweaking is required. What you save in money means less hours you have to work for money and more time to spend living independently with less stress and healthier lifestyle. Allow yourself time to develop your own routine and ways to do things; remember to breathe and have patience. This is a new lifestyle, not just a hobby or savings plan. Use correct posture at all times to minimize risk of injury. Research correct exercise postures from classes and videos by qualified professionals.

  Homework 1. Make a list of all the chores and errands you currently do and ways to multitask them.

  2. Create a schedule of your multitask chores and stick to it to establish a good time management routine.

  ❦9 Tools of a VIP Companion

  In this lesson is a list of the basic tools for a professional companion, such as wardrobe, grooming, communications, client screening, marketing, discreet credit card billing and banking, cover story, and security backups. It’s a fairly long and detailed list and a lot of homework.

  1. Wardrobe of clean classic clothes and accessories that complement your age, body type, and coloring; no scuffs, frays, or stains. Designer preferred, but not mandatory if it is good quality and cut to suit your body. You need at least one whole outfit with full lingerie and stockings to start. (No pantyhose unless crotch-less.)

  2. Sets of matching lingerie with suspenders and stockings – pushup bras not sports bras, panties and thongs not g-strings. Think burlesque sexy Italian. Must be in new condition, no stains, pilling, fading, scuffs, or stretched out elastic.

  3. Clean hair with even natural looking color or soft streaks and classic cut, clean white teeth, clean manicured fingernails and toenails, neat eyebrows, clean fresh scented body, no underarm or leg hair, natural shaped bikini wax, no face body piercings or large or visible tattoos. Respectful clients are more likely to respect respectable looking people.

  4. Supply of disposable cell phones for contacting new clients. Never give clients your personal contact information and never leave a paper trail or phone trail.

  5. Separate voicemail account to forward messages. Never use your personal voicemail or phone for business.

  6. Personal cell phone in case of emergencies. Always maintain a line in and out of your working world for just in case.

  7. Reliable laptop with video chat and access to Internet and email. This a business tool only, not a toy for goofing off or sharing with friends, your discretion is what you are being paid the big bucks for.

  8. Health insurance for regular check ups or list of free STD clinics. Being up close and personal with multiple partners puts your health at risk. All high paying jobs, straight and otherwise, create strains on the health.

  9. Supply of condoms, dental dams, and lube for just in case. Not all bookings require it, but it is expected. What you do with your client is up to you above what the client wants to pay for. If you don’t feel like it then don’t do it, else it will be fake and the client or date will sense it and not book you again or worse he will get disgruntled while in a booking with you. This is why you should chat and get to know a new person before the official date, to make sure you click sensually.

  10. Multiple online file storage and email accounts that are not stored on your computer and you can access from any computer, such as Google Docs.

  11. Reliable transport or discreet driver, no boyfriends or husbands. Keep your family, friends, and love ones out of your adult industry life altogether, they simple should never know, because in an emotional moment they can and will use it against you as a weapon, even if they don’t mean it.

  12. Memorable middle class or upper class sounding first and last name with rhyming syllables or letters. Examples: Sarah Nova, Jane Lane, Lisa Lisson, Deborah Bahrain, Michelle Michaels, Penelope Peters, Veronica Inca, Delia Steelton, Evelyn Love. This will also be your domain name for your web site – example www.janelane.com

  13. Set of photos with professional hair, makeup, fashion, and lighting shot in fashion magazine style. Respectable men prefer to date fashion models, not lingerie or swimwear models. Never show anything more than legs, arms, feet, stomach, or back, and only if it looks great in the photo. Face always hidden, but not blurred.

  14. Web site that does not look like a standard cookie cutter sex provider site. Must have a blog, photos, and contact forms on a secure encrypted server, no email addresses. Avoid the usual escort web design services, as they tend to overcharge. If you are doing web cams and require members’ areas for your web site, get quotes and use the web to educate yourself to find right priced services for what you need.

  15. List of web sites that list local escorts for you to advertise in to get up and running. Once you have a roster of regulars stop advertising until you need a new regular, so you don’t get over exposure.

  16. Emergency phone in and contact person. Somebody should always know where you are and how to contact you in case of emergency. You should always have somebody to phone when you are arrive at or leave a date or meeting. Preferably your personal assistant or another person in the biz who can keep a secret.

  17. Reliable online check service. needs so do some research to see which services suit your situation.

  18. Safe secure space to store any bank statements, phone bills, web site and domain bills anything else linking you to sex work. Example: A lockable box you can store at the back of your closet.

  19. An assortment of elegant hats, scarves and big sunglasses, no loud colors or bling, for going to and from dates and for when you need a quick disguise.

  20. Elegant handbags - no loud colors or big or bling or scuffmarks. Must have sturdy outside closures and handles and several inside zipper pockets to discreetly stash condoms, lube, fresh underwear, note pad and pen, emergency cash, and sex toys. If your handbag falls to the floor you don’t want the contents spilling out for everyone, including police or hotel security or your roommate to see.

  21. A legitimate business name, business bank account and Paypal account, so you can take credit cards and save your cash discreetly. You don’t want your client’s credit card statements stating your real name.

  screening and background

  It varies according to your 22. A feasible business plan that makes your cover story, discreet billing, high fees, and taxes make sense, such as consulting or counseling. A web site to match is also recommended.

  23. A
believable cover story so you can leave the house to meet clients such as business meetings, service quotes, consultations, sessions, and conferences for your legitimate business.

  24. Discreet calling cards or business cards with your stage name and web site for new clients and another set of cards with your contact info for regular clients.

  25. A Facebook account for with your clients and social networking to advertise your services. All the top European working girls and boys use Facebook. sometimes help you clients.

  Facebook can also screen prospective 26. A secret Facebook group to write your private blog to process your feelings and keep notes, names, and addresses you don’t want anyone else to see.

  27. A secret Facebook group for your regular clients and work friends you might share clients with – optional.

  Homework 1. Make a list of all the things you have and all the things you need and compare prices and quality.

  2. Start budgeting for and compiling all the items to complete the list.

  3. Write a small business plan and cover story for your legitimate business so have answers to inquisitive questions from friends and family.

  4. Keep your legitimate business stuff out in the open to give snoopers something safe to snoop. Keep your “companion” business stuff in your lock box and secure online accounts.

  Part Two

  Extended Training ❦10 Why This and Why Me?

  Call it professional companion, sugar baby, courtesan, escort, wife, arrangement of convenience, prostitution, hooking, frail sisterhood, concubine, mistress, unsanctified nuptials, or whatever. If you are getting material concerns taken car of in exchange for sex or companionship it's the same thing. It's not immoral if nobody gets hurt or ripped off. Women have been forced into it for millennia and to this day in the form of arranged marriage, with their parents pimping them out to the highest bidder. When I first thought about it from that perspective I got goose bumps because it made total sense. So don't give me any more crap about what somebody's interpretation of an overly rewritten, overly edited by other authors, torn up and edited again by even more others authors bible, holy text, or whatever your culture calls it. It's mess up my head and sent me to therapy for nearly 20 years already. The differences between an escort and a wife is that as an escort you get to say no and walk away if you don't like him, you manage your own money, can get an education if you like, and travel when and where you wish. For a woman in an arranged marriage as well as some love marriages, she is often kept inside 24/7 and can't do anything without permission from her husband. If she leaves her husband she risks being put on the street and ostracized by her family and church. If she is in India and the mother in-law doesn't like her, or is not happy with the dowry, more often than not the mother in-law pours kerosene over the daughter inlaw and burns her alive. I lived in India for six months and often read about these cases in the newspapers and heard about them from local neighbors. In extremist Islamic provinces women can't go to school or earn their own living. If they don't have a husband or father to look after them they starve or have their throats slit by the men out of so-called mercy, and their child daughters (sometimes as younger than 12 years old) are married to old men who don't wait for the girl to be 18 or even 16 before they consummate their wedding. So whenever you feel like a victim, remind yourself of arranged marriages and the sex slave life and fear those women and their daughters live their whole lives and their daughters after them. I worked in the sex industry on and off from ages 18 to 36, incall and out-call and as a burlesque cabaret dancer and stripper, from average Joes, to executives and wealthy play boys, to merchant bankers and race track owners, to actual royal princes. The reason I could do it for so long is that dancing, good diet, meditation, time stressing, massages young naturally (no plastic surgery or Botox) and maintained my manners and poise so I seemed unjaded. Plus I didn't know what else to do for income until I finally focused my goals and planning on getting out of the biz permanently. I've also been to finishing school, pony club, fox hunting, hung out with royalty, legit jobs in fashion and television, and put myself through college twice, and traveled and lived and worked and studied on several different continents. This has helped immensely with giving me goals to work for and satisfaction of attaining them. Now I'm retired, married, stay at home, and management, conscious deand facials, kept me fit and love sewing and writing. Before my looks and memory completely fade I will relate what I learned. Maybe you will learn something from it, maybe you won't, and maybe it will improve the direction and quality without romanticize the escort industry as a luxury naughty pleasure, nor demonize it as a sleazy slave trade. In the smaller picture if you are over 21 years of age and not enslaved to a pimp or control freak, nobody can make the decision to become a sex worker or quit being a sex worker except you. In the bigger picture, nobody can save the sex industry or stop the slave trade until prostitution is legal and sex workers, agencies, and establishments are regulated, no matter how much anybody moralizes it's the obvious truth. I say over 23 years of age because in my experience women under 23 do not have fully developed personalities and m mental boundaries to survive sex work and it's culture without getting some form of PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder), or having their personalities permanently remolded and scared. In practical truth women shouldn't enter the sex industry until they are 25, if they want to get in and get out emotionally unscathed. Contrary to what you see on Craigslist, City Vibe, or the Eros Guide, VIP companions do not show their faces or boobs or other private parts in their advertising. If they do show their face or intimate parts they are a fake, not high end, and not worth the VIP rates. Strange as it may seem highend men prefer their high paid companions to have self respect as well as a college absolute discretion. If you area industry and think you've got what it takes to go high-end then start thinking about and planning a of your life and day-to-day relationships