Wealthy Men for Money or Love Page 16
Discounted Rates If a provider discounts her rates it means she desperate; I reiterate - desperate sex workers are 99.9% trouble walking or trouble waiting to happen. Junkie hookers always discount their rates to get quick cash for daily drug fixes. How much is a dose?
Half Hour Rates Advertising half hour rates publicly is bad because of the same reasons and problems as Discounted Rates. Quality escorts never do half hour rates and never discount their rates. Plus so you really want to bang somebody who’s banged 5 or 10 guys before you on the same day?
In-call In a Bad Neighborhood Visiting a bad neighborhood is a bad idea under any circumstances. If you are new in town only see providers at a five star hotel, so you have help if anything is amiss. If you are a semi local or local refresh your research on which neighborhoods are safe and which are not.
Homework 1. Surf providers online that you like and read their profiles and web sites.
2. Make pros and cons lists of the providers that catch your eye.
❦38 Money
The Secret To Fine Women There is a secret to handling women that only the wisest men understand. The secret is that women are turned on by security and vanity in that order - lots of money, expensive gifts, luxury living spaces and pampering; they sure as hell don’t fuck strange men for love; no woman does. Most women will behave and will do their best for you and be discreet if you pay them plenty to do so and give clear instructions. The more money and expensive gifts you give them the wetter they get and better they will treat you. Sorry to blow your illusions but we do it for the money, no matter how great we kiss and cuddle you. Trophy wives and aristocrats are no different, they may not talk about money but it is what makes them sit up and listen. Money and gifts are the modern day equivalent to a warm cave and plenty of food from a hunter-gatherer male. It is the instinct of needing security for one’s family and tribe, modern or Stone Age.
Don’t Flash Your Money Guys who wave hundred dollar bills about and talk about how rich they are all the time are seen by working girls as men with small dick insecurities. Plus it sets you up as a target for mugging. If you want to spend your money to show it off go for it, but taunting people with it is invitation to trouble.
Don’t Be Cheap If you pay cheap for a cheap date you get a cheap date who will be looking at her watch every five minutes and reminding you to hurry up and tickling your testicles so you cum within the hour. If you pay big for a VIP escort she will be relaxed and be a great date for several hours because she didn’t have to fuck 10 guys on the same day before you to cover her rent or her pimp or drug habit.
Pay Before Play Pay the girl before your date, this makes her relax and be a better date. If you try to nickel and dime an escort it puts her on edge and a woman on edge, especially about money, is never as good a date as she can be, and even worse in bed. Put her fees in cash plus a healthy tip (enough for expensive shoes) in a red envelope in a gift bag, preferably with a nice gift and you will be guaranteed her top service. Women are turned on by money and gifts because it is their nature to prefer men who are good providers.
No Refunds Don’t ever ask for a refund, it’s not done in the sex industry and you would be considered less than a man for asking, even by most other men (misogynist buddies don’t count), plus it can get you black listed. Remember that legally you are paying for an escort’s time, not sex, so once she’s spent time with you, sex or no sex, or waited for you when you are late, she has legally and morally fulfilled her obligations for payment. Just like in any business a person’s time is money.
❦39 In The Bedroom
Clean Shower and brush your teeth first so she knows you are clean and smell fresh. No woman is attracted to stinky body smells and bad breath and sex workers deal with men up close more than most so they have more of an aversion. Women are genetically sensitive to smell because bad smells means bacteria that could hurt her baby or family. So no, your manly garlic and alcohol stink does not turn a woman on, sorry to burst your bubble.
Shave Shave before your date. Beard stubble hurts a woman’s soft skin and if she is hurting she is not going to be as good in bed or as good company. Working girls don’t dislike sex and you don’t want to put her in pain or cover her in red rash.
Protection Yes you do have to wear a condom and use a dental dam, she does not know where you’ve been and professional escorts are 100 times more safe sex conscious than the drunk chick you picked up in a bar last week. If she doesn’t want to use protection then put your pants back on and get out of there fast, she’s not right in the head and you know that leads to trouble.
Pleasure Don’t insist on giving her sexual pleasure, if she asks for something particular go for it, but apart from it’s not her job to have an orgasm or not. Escorts are trained to fake it to make you cum faster. Sex workers are actresses that provide a service for you not you providing a service for sex workers. Save your need to please for your girlfriend or wife, they will appreciate it more. The same goes for asking her what she likes in bed; she is there for your fantasy not hers. If your fantasy is to please a woman explain it to the sex worker before you go to bed, so she can accommodate you appropriately.
Be Nice You don’t need to tell her she’s a whore or “just a hooker”, she already knows that and has enough guilt trips about it. Also don’t ever say, “What’s a nice girl like you doing this for?” that kind of cliché crap can put you on her blacklist, because it is manipulation and playing with a person’s head. Working girls deal with enough guilt emotions and mind fucks on their own time about what they do, without needing punters (Johns, clients, tricks, whatever) to remind them. If you don’t want the date to be dull and the sex merely perfunctory don’t play mind games with her head. Just because you are paying somebody does not mean you can do anything you like to them; they are human beings just like you. And don’t ever handle a woman roughly, roughing up women is not being a man it’s being a fuckwit 5 year old. If you need to take something out on somebody go to a Tai Kwon Do kickboxing class and get anger management therapy. You don’t want the police or her bodyguard, or pimp, or agency, or journalists, or her boyfriend and his buddies with baseball bats and knives and guns coming after you.
Homework 1. Write down points of what you want to happen in the bedroom so you are clear with your self and know what to tell her to do.
2. Check in with a therapist in case you may have underlying issues, which could surface in the presence of a sex worker. Sometimes being with a sex worker triggers deep things. Some guys have negative issues that can suddenly come up in that situation without them realizing it, so check in with your therapist on occasion to be safe and out of jail.
3. Go to the barber and get a nice clean shave and your hair neat and tidy. You don’t want to scare her away.
4. Buy your own condoms that fit you properly, firm so they stay on. Protection is for you to.
❦40 Gifts
Gifts let a woman know you are feeling serious about something. Gifts to an escort are tips, not trade items. In upper social circles expensive gifts and expensive companions are a status symbol. Sort of like keeping expensive race horses. In this chapter are lists of gift suggestions for various budgets and to give what kind of gift. You don’t give a woman a luxury car on the first date, it might overwhelm her and that could awkward.
Gift Suggestions
Gifts that will please most women on the first few dates: • Diamonds and Salt Water Peals
• Purses and Shoes by Top Shelf Designers
• Top Shelf Perfume
• Platinum and Gold Jewelry
• High-end department store gift cards
• High-end spa and beauty gift cards Gifts after they’ve known you a little better:
• Top Shelf Alcohol
• High-end organic grocery gift cards
• Hybrid or electric luxury cars
• First class open ended travel vouchers
• Five+ star hotel vouchers + room service
&nb
sp; • Car hire gift cards
• Stocks and Bonds
• High-end gym membership
• Personal trainer
Gifts of personal preference, ask if she wants it and what brand and type and what size: • Flowers
• Electronics
• Cell or Mobile Phones
• Clothing
• Lingerie
• Cameras
• Antiques and Vintage
• Maid Service Gift Cards
• Non Hybrid or Electric Cars
• Grocery Gift Cards
• Fine Art
• College Tuition
• Child’s Education
• Real Estate
• Room and Board
• Medical
• Dentistry
• Optical
• Plastic Surgery
• Business Start Up
• Excursions – Rafting, museum, etc.
Homework 1. Make a list of items you can afford as gifts from the first list.
2. Make a list of items you can afford as gifts from the second list.
3. Make a list of items you can afford as gifts from the third list.
❦41 Ongoing Relationships
A good VIP Escort is a paid companion where you don’t have to be emotionally involved and you know what you are getting and it is only between you and that person, because you are paying a lot of money to know what you are getting and it between only you and that person. She is your mistress or courtesan in reality, you are spending time with her romantically and giving her cash and resources to cover her expenses and living. It’s been done for hundreds of thousands of years and more back to the Stone Age before there was money and before it was called prostitution. The safest situation is seeing a regular girl you feel comfortable, can talk to easily, can be friends with and can trust each other. Upscale pros and sugar babies are best for that because they prefer to be paid enough to see only one client on a weekly or monthly basis they “click with” and can have a real friendship with are safety and discretion conscious. Think about how much you currently spend on sex workers and women that you are not interested in for marriage and babies. It can be enough for a mortgage or more and you don’t always get what you want. In the upscale companion industry you tryout several women to find the one that suits you best without any guilt from other women’s hurt feelings. The process is discreet and you know how much your dates will cost plus your personal extravagances. The women have background checked you to make sure you are safe, so you know these women respect their selves and don’t want trouble. It’s the same as making you wear a condom. It keeps everybody safe and you feel safe that she’s not a total idiot. Once you’ve found your ideal paid mistress it is OK to make financial discretion arrangements, such as a business development consultant, anger management councilor, or marketing consultant. Technically a sex worker is a sex and stress management specialist, her job is to get clients to relax and enjoy sex in what ever way above and beyond what a day job straight therapist does. But the job and seeking lots of clients is not good for a sex worker’s head so she doesn’t keep her sparkle for long. That’s why a good escort is good to keep and pay her enough so she doesn’t need other clients and she keeps her sparkle alive just for you. Ask her how much she needs to not see other men and be calm and clear about your request. Note that sparkle only for certain new natural chemistry, but it can fade if she sees too many other clients after that. If you see that sparkle and you like the person put in a serious bid before her sparkle fades permanently for you to. A sex worker can go through a lot of head and emotional stuff in just a few days depending on what other clients she’s seeing. Some insecure fuckwit guys like to play mind games because mentally they have tiny cock syndrome. peoples’ “issues” often and without society’s support or license. Find that sparkle for you in her eyes and manner; make her an offer she can’t refuse to keep her out of the industry. Try the relationship out for 6 months for you to both get used to the situation and if you can some sex workers
clients, because of Providers are more sensitive to because they deal with it more click long term. Good relationships are not instant just because you are paying for them.
Homework 1. Make a list of things in an ideal relationship.
2. Make a list of things you don’t want in a relationship.
3. Make a list of things you want in an ideal girlfriend.
4. Make a list of things including financially, materialistically and relationship wise that you can offer an ideal girlfriend.
5. Create a plan (mini business plan) to keep your relationship‘s financial arrangements private.
❧Advice for Wealthy Men Summary Fine women are like fine cars, if you choose wisely and throw money at them, give them clear polite instructions, give them safety, and treat them well they will be their best for you.
Part 5 ❧Closing Notes
❧Closing Notes
It is up to you to create your safety and your safe world in the sex industry and in real life. Life is how you think about it and how you deal with it and what you make of it. Don’t feel sorry for yourself, feeling sorry for yourself makes you useless to yourself and a burden to others. Take off the gaudy makeup, big hoop earrings and g-string and put on a nice dress and pearls, so that when you look in the mirror you see and feel like the individual real woman that wealthy respectful men want to throw money at. In this book I’ve remembered things I don’t normally teach in my workshops. This book has been as much a journey for me into my past and a revelation of the huge amount I’ve learned and how it relates to real life as I hope it has for you.
Bridget is a teen working girl in Australia who collected and emulated a punk kitsch Barbie with spiked multicolored hair, spiked dog color around her neck, and obsession with the color pink. In the 1990s I worked and volunteered with Bridgette in dance clubs and on land restoration projects and events. Bridget once told a mutual friend and youth worker who was also my high school sweetheart who helped me lose my virginity over a decade previously, that I was going to save the world. How fabulously ironic to remember that moment and those particular people a decade or more later and in this particular book… but that’s Bridget
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